The world won’t let you change, but not because the world is bad, or wrong, or evil, or against you. The world won’t let you change because you have convinced the world that you are the person that you are today. So when you try to change, you actually break rapport with your own environment.

When you try to make changes, the people around you experience broken expectations. They’re thrown off. They feel uncomfortable. They feel uneasy because they’re used to you being a certain way. The world won’t let you change because you convinced the world you are what you are today.

The next step for you is to get clear about who you are and what you’re all about now, and then convince the world of that. And when you do, everything will change.


  1. this post is very usefull thx!

  2. Molly says:

    This is an interesting post. I am recently divorced and have found that I have made many personal changes. However, it took a while for my ex to view me with new eyes. Since then we have both made a commitment to not let our past acrimony and views of each other color our perspective of our current selves. We get along so much better as a result.

    1. Matthew says:


      Great news! Congrats on having a conscious relationship with your Ex. I’ve got some great posts on relationship that will help deepen your new found respect for each other. Once my first wife and I divorced became much better friends :-) Now she works for me and my current wife. How great is that!!

  3. Dr. Brant says:

    Excellent post. I needed to hear that. I just signed up for you Inspired Action Weekly…getting excited!

    1. Matthew says:

      Dr. Brant, I’m honored that you would sign up for the Inspired Action Weekly. I’m totally committed to having it kick people’s Drunk Monkey in the butt. I need your help and feed back so that I can make it the best on line training available in my space.

  4. anna says:

    How does one “convince the world of that” without “trying to make those changes”? I’m feeling unclear on that…

    1. Matthew says:

      Anna, In order to make the changes you want in your life, you must start to tell the people around you what you are committed to. They will naturally oppose or try to convince you that it might be hard or dangerous which reveals the mediocre you have convinced them of. Next step is to take responsibility for having convinced them that you are weak or that you can’t do it or that you aren’t a risk taker etc. An example might be, “Mom, I owe you an apology. I’ve spent so much of my life complaining about XYZ because I was afraid that I wasn’t good enough to do ABC. I used it as a cover up so that I didn’t have to take any action. But now I can see that I was just afraid. From this moment on you can count on me to do XYZ and I’m getting on the path to accomplish ABC!” Now you have created a new expectation in your mother. She now expects you to go after your new goal and this will add incredible power to your efforts.

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