So what is the source of suffering in relationship?
The Drunk Monkey!
The Drunk Monkey is my nickname for your mind. You know that little voice in your head that won’t shut up? You know that thing that is constantly talking, presenting you with images, sounds and commentary?
You know what I’m talking about, right?
The voice in your head. Let me make it totally obvious that you have a voice in your head… Listen to what happens when I tell you this…
“There are no jerks in the world, there are only jerks when you show up. Being a jerk is a reaction to who you are. There are no actual jerks in the world.”
Did you hear all that stuff in your head?
That is your drunk monkey!
You and your partner are not in this relationship alone. There are four people in your relationship.
2. Your Drunk Monkey
3. Your Partner
4. Your Partner’s Drunk Monkey
Have you noticed that your Drunk Monkey doesn’t like a lot of what your partner does?
I hate to break the news but your partner’s Drunk Monkey doesn’t like a lot of what you do either!
Because the mind, the talking in your head, The Drunk Monkey is not designed for love, connection, joy, happiness, ecstasy!!
Your Drunk Monkey has one job and one job only… To keep you alive
Until you become conscious, you can not transform automatic thinking patterns that are destructive to your relationship.
My intention is that these writings help you bring more harmony back into your relationship.