This week I’ve noticed that my clients make unconditional statements that trap them in a reality they don’t want.
One said, “I’m non committal” This is a false statement. You aren’t anything until you declare it. You might have moments when you can’t decide and then there are other times when you can. A more powerful way to say this is, “Right now I seem to be having troubles deciding. But I know that my lack of clarity will give way to clarity and again. In the mean time I’m simply going to be open to all the aspects of life that will come to help me choose.”
Another said, “I just can’t” Totally false. It’s not that you can’t. It is that you won’t. Better to be honest, “Right now I don’t wan to to do this. I know it’s important but I just don’t feel like doing anything about it. I’ve been in this place before an I know that my inspiration will return and I will finally get into action. If not, I will simply recognize that I don’t want to take the action and cancel my promise to do so.”
Someone said, “I don’t do that” Not true. You don’t want to do that. Its not that you don’t, as it you can’t. It is that you won’t as in you don’t want to.
So often our language implies that there are forces greater then ourselves dictating our choices and behavior. Sorry. Not true. The responsibility for you life lies squarely on your shoulders. Enjoy that power.
