Matthew Ferry's Blog

Relationship bliss. How do you achieve this? It’s really simple. You have to give up being right. You need to give up that the other person is wrong. You’ve got to give up that your way is the only way. You need to recognize, very simply, that your partner, your spouse, your lover was raised by other people who have a totally different way of operating in the world. Ultimately, you need to stop converting the person that you are in relationship with to your style. They don’t want to be your style. They want to be their style. So just let them be the style that they are and instead devote yourself to their joy. Spend your time focused on creating their joy, and your joy will explode. All you have to do is focus on how you can help them be happy, and your happiness will be unbelievable.