A life coaching client wrote in, “I have a question, When ever we are asked what our dreams and goals are, I like freeze, I can never really come up with what my dreams are and can’t find goals that excite me., its like they have been suppressed for so long I don’t even know. Its like when ever that question comes Its like a kid taking a test and just freezes.”
Several aspects of ourselves stop us from setting new goals. The biggest one is fear. The Drunk Monkey is trying to protect you from getting hurt. It believes that if you stay the same, then your life will remain relatively safe.
I like to use two different techniques to break out of this pattern. The first is called The Worst Case Scenario. Write out the worst possible thing that could happen if you create some new goals and notice that just the exercises frees you up to be more expressed.
The second technique I like to use comes from my NLP training and I call it getting leverage. Visualize what your life will be like ten years from now if you never set any new goals. Find all the negatives and really focus on them. Make yourself sick to your stomach. Then visualize what your life will be like 10 years into the future when you break through what is stopping you and start achieving. Feel the energy and excitement.
Once you have done each of these techniques, pick up the pen and just start writing. Answer these two questions:
How would you rate your level of satisfaction (on a scale from 1-10) in the area of physical health? What would have to happen for it to be a 10? What ever you wrote down will be a new goal. Now ask the same two questions for mindset, spirituality, family, primary relationship, business, personal finances, contributions, social life, and recreational activities. When you are done, you will have a great list of goals.
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A life coaching client wrote in, “I have a question, When ever we are asked what our dreams and goals are, I like freeze, I can never really come up with what my dreams are and can’t find goals that excite me., its like they have been suppressed for so long I don’t even know. [...]
Failure is learning. Without failure you will never understand what is necessary to achieve your goals. Failure is setting you up for what’s next. Don’t avoid failure. If you don’t fail you won’t succeed. To feel like, “All is lost” is inaccurate. So much is gained along the way. Seek failure and discover it’s lessons [...]
A life coaching client wrote in, “I have a question, When ever we are asked what our dreams and goals are, I like freeze, I can never really come up with what my dreams are and can’t find goals that excite me., its like they have been suppressed for so long I don’t even know. [...]
Failure is learning. Without failure you will never understand what is necessary to achieve your goals. Failure is setting you up for what’s next. Don’t avoid failure. If you don’t fail you won’t succeed. To feel like, “All is lost” is inaccurate. So much is gained along the way. Seek failure and discover it’s lessons [...]
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I recently confronted my client on the fact that she made me a promise and didn’t keep it. Rather then owning it, and simply saying, “You are right, I said I would and I didn’t.” … she did what most powerful people do; She used her enormous power to try and manipulate me into believing [...]
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