People annoy you because you are holding them accountable to standards they didn’t sign up for. You want people to behave in the way that you deem appropriate. They don’t. That’s annoying, right? Wrong. Your resistance to the situation is what you deem annoying. Another way of saying it is that you are annoying yourself by resisting.
So what’s the solution? Notice that you are not the Lord of the universe and realize that your opinion about things only causes you to suffer. Practice just letting it be and see what happens. It’s an experiment. Be a scientist.