Law of Attraction revenge boomarang!

Boy with a boomerangA friend on the internet writes, “I’ve watched your videos on manifesting and The Drunk Monkey and I’m wondering if there is a way to get my job back using your techniques. A group of people took revenge on me and got me fired. Can you help?”

You get what you focus on.

If you retaliate, you will bring more negativity upon yourself.  Kids know it intuitively when they say, “I’m rubber, you are glue, what ever you say bounces off me, and sticks to you!”

The energy of retaliation is anger, hostility, revenge, and ultimately powerlessness.  If you put that out, you will get it back and now you are really spiraling.

What is the Alternative?

Are you going to get the job back?  Not likely.  Remember that when one door closes, another opens.  Everything happens for a reason.  What you want is trying to get into your life.  If you honor that your back-stabbing work mates are just God supporting your intentions, then you can begin to look for what the opportunity is.   This is not pseudo positivity.  I’m not asking you to put your head in the sand.  I’m asking you to take responsiblity for the way you treated your back-stabbing associates.  They didn’t take you down because you were Mr. Nice Guy.  You get what you put out.  So you got back from them what you put out to them.

This is an opportunity for you to make a new decision about where to put your thoughts.  Question, “Are you committed to being a powerless victim or the creator of your life?”  If you are committed to being the creator of your life, then you must start to look at how you created this situation and how you can create the next situation in a positive way.

I highly recomend you download my Discover Your Purpose workbook and complete it ASAP.

9 Conditions of Fear

SadnessTwo months ago I published 10 ways you let fear get a hold of you.  I continue this exploration with 9 Conditions of Fear.

As a Life Coach, my intention is to demonstrate the conditions that make fear more favorable.  In phase III of the Inspired Action Coaching process my coaches and I work with people to shift the conditions of life to support happiness and success.

Consider this idea, “Your environment dictates who you are!”  Most people have allowed the conditions of their life to set themselves up.  Rather than being deliberate, they are accidental.  This list helps you to see 9 more negative conditions that can be turned into positive conditions with the proper discipline and structure.

Bottom Line:  When fear gets a hold of you, life stops working effectively.  Fear makes everything worse.  Here are 9 more ways that fear grabs a hold of you and why you should do the opposite.

1.  Lack of exercise. When you exercise, you fill your body full of happy chemicals.  When you don’t, you run low on endorphins (one of the three happy chemicals).  People who don’t exercise are more susceptible to fear.

2.  Not connected to your vision. If you aren’t clear about your vision, you will be pulled into other people’s visions.  This means you will be haunted with an “I’m not there yet” feeling which is really a fear that you aren’t living your true purpose or that your life is being wasted.

3.  Being in an uninspired state. When you are not inspired, you are most likely present to the mundane in your life or worse, what isn’t working.  Stay in either one of these states long enough and The Drunk Monkey will start to chant “You aren’t good enough!  Your life is meaningless!”  This, of course, is just fear.

4.  Resisting being blocked. There will be times when you are blocked and not moving forward.  These are natural times of rest and reconsideration.  If you panic and resist this state you will be gripped by fear.

5.  Not being conscious. If you are not aware of The Drunk Monkey (your mind) and all of it’s crazy imaginings, then you will naturally get pulled into your thoughts.  All thoughts have some fear at its source.  Not being conscious of your thoughts leads to being gripped by fear.

6.  Being on autopilot. Closely related to not being conscious but with a twist.  When you go on autopilot it is often a form of resignation, “Why bother?” You get it, right?  That’s just fear of taking new action.

7.  Enter into the realm of mind. When you listen to your mind, The Drunk Monkey, you are listening to a machine that uses fear as a tool for action.  Your minds job is to recognize potential danger and avoid it.  Listening to The Drunk Monkey is like watching the news.  The news focuses your attention on what’s wrong to keep you a breast of what might be wrong in the world.  Only problem is, most of it does not have any thing to do with you.  Pay close attention to the mind and you will find the same thing.

8.  Being the victim of my circumstances versus the creator of my experience. Not everything is under your control.  You are not the ruler of the universe.  But you are in charge of your reactions.  If you allow The Drunk Monkey to control your reactions, then you will be afraid.  When something unwanted happens, and it will, step back from the mind and see yourself as the creator of your experience, the controller of your response.  This will bring peace.

9.  Not listening to or reading my mentors. It’s amazing how positive your feelings can get by just reading a few words or listening to a mentor’s voice.

Is your focus making you a victim of the economy?

Monkey's got your back

Monkey's got your back

The Drunk Monkey (your mind) is a survival machine. It’s job is to protect you from possible destruction. Therefore, it is totally addicted to the news. The news organizations have realized that sensationalized news hooks their viewers Drunk Monkeys.

The news has no commitment to truth. It has a commitment to making money which means “selling advertising”. The more viewers the news organizations have, the more money these companies make. Clearly, there is a natural pull towards the sensational verses the truth.  Blogging has only made this 100 times worse because blogging, like this blog, is just someone’s opinion.

“All opinions are vanities and have no intrinsic value and are actually the result of ignorance” says Dr. David Hawkins in his book The Eye of the I.

If you are going to feel good and make the best of the current economy, then you are going to have to give up your addiction to the news and your opinion about the news.

When you focus on what Obama is doing or which bank is going under, you move out of your center. These could be important factors in your decision-making about what strategy would make the best of this economy.  Yet, to become evangelistically opposed to stuff you’ve got no control over is only negatively impacting your own psyche.  If you listen to yourself and your friends talk about the news, you will hear yourself and others giving their opinion about things that make no difference and things they have no control over.

  • What do you want?
  • Where are you going?
  • What can you do?
  • What actions can you take now?
  • Who do you need help from?
  • What is a miracle you could take a stand for occurring?

To put your focus on these kinds of questions will make a profound difference.

To spend time pondering the news and how it might possibly negatively effect you is pathetic and the mindset of the victim. (Read that again please).

To spend time espousing your opinion over tax cuts, presidential spending and banks going under after the fact is completely ridiculous and only done by people committed to being stuck and spreading the illusion that they are not in control of their life.  Illusion not truth.

You are the creator of your experience, not the victim of your circumstances. You have the power to mold the circumstances of your life first with your attitude (your perspective) and second with your actions.

So what are you going to focus on?

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