Why most visioning fails to keep you inspired

Dated: date February 23, 2009 – 10:11 am

goldfish jumping out of the waterI was just noodling on the web and ran across someone’s slides on how to create your future.  He goes on to tell us the classic way to create your future is to think about life from this perspective… What if there were no limitations?  The problem with this approach is that it does not honor The Drunk Monkey!

The Drunk Monkey’s job is to keep you alive by changing, fixing, avoiding or killing anything that might be potentially threatening.  The very fact that you and I have that machine running in the background insures that we can NOT think or operate from the mindset of no limitation.  Yes, I might be able to come up with a no limit thought.  But actually implementing it is a nightmare.  Why?

The Drunk Monkey’s job is to run in the background of my life and silently steer my body away from danger.  New, different, amazing, mind blowing, out of the box and no limit all represent the unknown which The Drunk Monkey naturally avoids.  So my no limit thinking is overridden by my body’s natural aversion to the unknown.

In the Inspired Action Coaching Program we (the coaches and I) know that you must illuminate The Drunk Monkey and it’s motives if you are going to be able to make drastic changes.  After you can spot The Drunk Monkey trying to protect you from your new future, then you can really make radical changes with minimal fear.  If you don’t see The Drunk Monkey running your life, then you are stuck. You are The Drunk Monkey’s puppet.

If you haven’t read my basic outline of how The Drunk Monkey runs the show, check out The Truth Virus.

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Doesn’t focusing on the worst case scenario attract the worst?

Dated: date February 18, 2009 – 11:21 am

A client is wondering about the Law of Attraction.  He sends me a note and asks, “Matthew, if I do your worst case scenario exercise, won’t I bring the worst case upon me via the Law of Attraction?”

Nope!  Here’s why…

What most people don’t understand about the Law of Attraction is that you are always pulling to you what dominates your thinking.  The Inspired Action Coaches have seen this over and over with clients who are frantically writing their goals, doing affirmations, meditating and visualizing to no avail.  Their life still isn’t what they want.

The Drunk Monkey (your mind chatter) is generally running the show.  You think somewhere around 60,000 thoughts per day.  You are consciously in control of a couple thousand.  All the rest are subroutines designed to keep you alive (in a world where you are definitely going to die).

If The Drunk Monkey identifies your situation as potentially dangerous, it will begin focusing on changing, fixing or correcting it.  Often times, this goes unnoticed.  Yet, the more you focus on fixing your broken life, the more you draw to you that which you are focused on (your broken life).

The worst case scenario exercise is designed to nullify The Drunk Monkey’s obsession with the potentially negative future by a) Writing out the worst possible thing that could happen; and b) Coming up with two possible back-up plans if the worst case actually happened.

It will blow you way how free you actually become in this process.  The moment you write it out is the moment the creative juices start flowing and your life begins to magically turn around.

If you are worried about something negative happening, then try the worst case scenario exercises and enjoy the results.

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An inspiring way to deal with bankruptcy and failure

Dated: date February 16, 2009 – 10:37 am

Long time friend and client Carlos Justo had an epic rise to the top in Miami real estate and came crashing down into bankruptcy. In the spirit of contribution, he’s committed to using his own life as an example of how to deal with life’s ups and downs with grace and confidence.

Check out his video here on ABC News.

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Lifestyle kills life experience

Dated: date February 1, 2009 – 3:11 am

So many of our Inspired Action Coaching clients find themselves in an uncomfortable position. They accidentally went after lifestyle thinking it was going to give them life experience. But the lifestyle ended up making their life experience less then satisfactory.

I regularly support clients through the transition from looking good to feeling good. One couple who is in the coaching program right now feels stuck. They both realize they want to contribute more, do more art, and travel. Instead they got caught up on the “keeping up with the Jones’ game” and now they are stuck. Their lifestyle has them trapped. What they really wanted was life experience.

So now they are in the process of letting go of all their attachments to the stuff, to looking good, to trying to accumulate things, etc. They are seeing that they have built their life to look good to others and look like they are successful. But they both feel empty inside.

Have you made this mistake? Have you traded lifestyle for life experience pretending like SOMEDAY it will all change? Pretending someday in the future you will have life experience and until then you will have minimal experience?

Here is the blog of a client Chuck Post who broke free and is now traveling around the world living his someday now!

Chucks Blog

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How do I achieve the big dream?

Dated: date January 18, 2009 – 3:19 pm

Clients often ask me “How do I achieve the big dream?”  My answer is not usually something they understand right way. “Your life is as big as you are flexible”.  Flexibility is one of the essential ingredients in achieving big dreams.

Why?

Big dreams represent big changes.  This means you must be able to be comfortable tearing your life apart, confronting what doesn’t work, dealing with people’s broken expectations, and failing.  The more you can roll with it and keep moving forward, the more likely you will manifest the big dream.

After coaching people to achieve success for years, I finally let go of teaching people “how” to achieve and started helping them remove the barriers to success.  You already know what to do, you just don’t do it.  Why?  Because of inflexibility.  Inability to deal with massive change.

Here’s a video about learning to thrive in times of change.  There will be 9 of these videos so stand by.

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Embrace the Breakdown

Dated: date January 16, 2009 – 11:20 am

Breakdown is good.  In the Inspired Action Coaching Program we celebrate failure, stress, breakdowns and disasters.  I can tell you with absolute certainty that breakdown is the beginning of breakthrough.  Destruction is the beginning of creation.  If you are in the middle of a breakdown, something good is about to happen.

Warning:  Most people prolong the breakdown by avoiding it, denying it or getting mad about it.  What you resist will persist.  Enjoy the breakdown.  Know that on the other side is the incredible ecstasy of breakthrough.

Consider this idea: Success is a series of well-managed breakdowns.  Most people believe that when you become successful that your life will be dreamy and perfect.  Quite the opposite, my friend.  Success means lots of new things and lots more to manage.  Success brings massive breakdown and failure to manage.  The more successful you are, the more balls you have in the air.

If you are in breakdown, you are doing something right.  You are pushing against your old life and creating something new.  Embrace it.

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