How to Unstick the Miracles that Want You

A series of events occurred with a powerful entrepreneurial woman that produced miracles.

Here is a quote my mentor Dr. David Hawkins from his book Eye of the I:

“(Miracles) are an eventuality that are brought into actuality by the removal of the impediments of negativity.”

In other words, miracles are trying to happen and you are blocking them.  The key is to remove the impediments of negativity.  Negativity is the resistance you have to how life actually is.  Negativity impedes (stops the flow of) miracles.  If you stop resisting life, people etc, then miracles will happen naturally.

Back to my client:  We have a call today.  She breaks down into tears and says, “Everything is stuck.  I have all these deals around me that aren’t coming together!”  With further investigation we discover that she is afraid that she is a failure and that if she fails no one will love her.  I asked her, “Who is the one person you know will be most disappointed by your failure?”  She said it was her mom.  I asked her to call her mom as soon as we hung up and just be honest about where she is in her life.  “Tell her how scared you are.  Admit that you are struggling to keep it all together.  Let her know that you are afraid that you are going to disappoint her with your failure and that she may not love you any more!”  I told her.

Hearing me say all of this back she started laughing, “This is crazy” she blurted out!  “I know my mom will love me no matter what I do.”  My comment was pointed, “The Drunk Monkey is dillusional!”  So she hangs up and calls her mom.  Here are the two emails I get from her within two hours.

Email One:

“thank you – spent 30 minutes on the phone with mom and was  blown away by how much she loves me.  She even offered to have me come live with her. crazy, eh? I feel heavy and light, serious and silly, and well, excited.  Something just massively shifted. – thank you”

Two hours later – Email Two:

“In the last 60 minutes:  I learned the big client I’ve been chasing called while you and I were on the phone!  Just left him a message (free and light and totally unattached).
My mom called BACK and shared a story about when my Aunt had to get back on her feet… and that if I need to live with her, I am welcome.  I just got money in the mail! I just got word that I have enough equity in my insurance policies to pay premium through October!  I received a request to complete a brand new audit for a small business lender!  … and well, I am smiling ear to ear!”

4 Hours Later – Conversation we had

She is raving with excitement and tells me “Holy Cow!  I’m on fire!  I spoke with a Realtor client about doing some future joint ventures (I do the branding and marketing and he does the sales).  He was very excited about the possibilities but told me, to not get too excited because he didn’t have any work for me.  I told him that if we put our attention on it, miracles would happen.  Two hours later he forwards me an email from a builder who suddenly has two projects we could potentially work on!!  Hello!!”

When you remove the impediments of negativity, miracles abound!  What do you need to stop resisting today?

Your Plans Will Never Fail

Failure is learning.  Without failure you will never understand what is necessary to achieve your goals.  Failure is setting you up for what’s next.  Don’t avoid failure.  If you don’t fail you won’t succeed.  To feel like, “All is lost” is inaccurate.  So much is gained along the way.  Seek failure and discover it’s lessons and you will never fail.

Fix Your Relationship Like Jennifer and Powell

Powell,Asher,Me, & MilesToday I received a wonderful testimonial from Jennifer about how controlling her Drunk Monkey positively impacted her marriage.

“I am writing this to anyone interested in creating a relationship beyond your wildest dreams & the affect of working with Matthew Ferry has had for our family – in particular in the area of relationship. My husband and I took the relationship course offered by Matthew and it has transformed the way we think, the way we are, what we create together, and the connection we have with each other and with our children.

When we started the course I blamed my husband for everything. I saw him as someone who if he did this than I would be happy. Not a real powerful place to stand from. It was after taking this course that I realized the power I have to create or destroy my own happiness and how I had been a victim in life and with my husband. I had an attitude of superiority, anger, it was as if my husband was walking around with a target on him at all times and I was just looking for the next thing he did to me or not the way that I wanted. After taking this course it became very clear that I was creating this scenario to play into the cycle I had lived my entire life…of not being worthy, of being a victim. Having this as the general pattern running my life gave me the excuse to make others wrong & from that standpoint I would never have to be responsible for my actions or the life I was creating.
Since taking this course there have been moments where I will fall back and realize very quickly that I am responsible – and I will ask myself – what can I do to create something different that serves our happiness & the happiness of our family. I realized in taking this course that clearly when we are happy in life everything around us is good. Having the power to create our own happiness makes life enchanting, engaging, and one worth living.
Our family recently moved to an area we have been talking about relocating to for the last 5 years, have our third boy on the way and are co-creating for the first time in our life together. What we share together is honest, pure, and the life we have always wanted…This class and work with Matthew has left both of us empowered and for the first time we are life partners supporting and loving each other.

In one sentence…working with Matthew has given us the gift of co-creating a life and love that is unconditional and with out limits.
Thank you Matthew… J”

By the way, let me teach you how to get the monkey under control.  Be on my next complementary webinar this Wednesday.  Register Here

Paralyzed with Doubt and Fear

Nervous WreckOne of my clients is paralyzed with doubt and fear.  He says  “I wish I knew what I wanted.  I wish I didn’t feel so paralyzed.  Every decision is hard for me.  Why can’t my life be easy like other people?”

The Drunk Monkey strikes again.  Fear and doubt are important mechanisms of The Drunk Monkey (your mind).  Fear and doubt are guiding forces away from potential danger.  The problem for most people, including my client, is that life is not dangerous at all.  Not knowing what to do with your life is not dangerous.  Therefore when you are in fear and doubt just notice how you are hallucinating that something bad is going to happen and you are avoiding that illusion.

The second part of my client’s statement is “Why can’t my life be easy like other people?”.  Again, this is a misperception.  After coaching more than 8300 people to achieve happiness and success I can tell you with certainty that lives look easy on the outside but everyone’s monkey makes it difficult on the inside.

Life isn’t hard.  Your resistance to what life is makes it hard.  If you will pause and see The Drunk Monkey madness in your head for what it is, then you will be able to let it go and move forward again.

Action is Faith, Non-action…

istock_000005824203mediumWhen you find yourself in action, you are operating from an internal knowing that what you want is coming.  Most new age peeps believe that when you set a new goal, that the Law of Attraction will just bring it.  And often that happens.  But usually this occurs when what you want is something of little substance or importance.  The big stuff requires your full participation.  When you trust the universe, you act.  When you don’t trust the universe, you chant more affirmations, visualize, and read more books about manifesting.

Action is the faith that what you want will occur.

Non-action is the fear that what you want will not occur.

Plagued with Imaginary Scenarios

istock_000006625131mediumThis morning I sit here and The Drunk Monkey (my mind) is tormenting me with imaginary scenarios about potential negative futures. It is protecting me from people who aren’t attacking me.  It is strategizing and avoiding possible destruction that isn’t even occurring.

Over and over The Drunk Monkey plays out possible negative futures. I feel myself getting more and more worried. I experience doubt, panic and fear.

“Wait a minute!” I scream at The Drunk Monkey.

“Let’s take stock for a second.” I say to The Drunk Monkey. “Is any of this actually happening right now?  No!  Is there any evidence that any of these negative situations will occur?  No!”  So I proceed to do a quick 10/10 Visualization and review everything in my life that I’m grateful for. Then I think about my goals and dreams. Then I say to myself, “What actions am I committed to today?”

As I begin to see what actions I’m going to take, The Drunk Monkey begins to get on board and assess what needs to happen to fulfill on my desired outcomes.

Voila! I’m back. Now you try it.

If you need help with the 10/10 Visualization I’ve also created an audio version where I guide you through a 15 minute exercise.  Check it out here

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