The Monkey Finds a Way to Make Your Partner WRONG!!!

Originally posted on June, 18 2008

The Drunk Monkey, your mind, is committed to keeping you alive. Therefore, it spends time proving its’ conclusions. All of your conclusions about life, your opinions about how life is, are just observations filtered through all of your other observations. Which means, our opinions are very skewed and off-base.

Let’s say your partner, lover, or significant other does something that contradicts your opinion. In your family you never yell at people. In your partner’s family they yell and scream when they feel anger. This yelling and screaming contradicts your opinion about how things “should” be. The Drunk Monkey deems it a threat and next thing you know you are operating like your partner is bad and wrong!

From that point on, this perception becomes self-reinforcing. Any time your partner reacts in a way that contradicts your opinion, The Drunk Monkey says “See! I told you he/she is wrong!”

Today, just notice how you say you love this person in your life, yet you have a laundry list of things that are wrong about them. That what you really are thinking is that if your partner were to be perfect, they would do everything the way you deem right.

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Be in a Perpetual State of Now

Originally posted on October 27, 2010

You are in a perpetual state of now. And I know that a lot of people think “but what does it mean exactly?” Well, it basically means that the drunk monkey in your head is constantly fantasizing about what’s coming up in the future. It’s obsessed with controlling the next minute, the next second, the next hour, the next day, the next year. And I want you to notice that there’s not much the drunk monkey can do about it.

The wisest thing to do is to ignore it and to say, “You know what, monkey, what is going to happen will be perfect. I have things I am committed to. I’m not being irresponsible. I do set goals and have objectives. But obsessing and going over and over and over it in my head right now really is not doing us any good.”

Another thing that the drunk monkey does that keeps you out of the present moment is it’s constantly thinking about the past. It’s regretting. It’s trying to re-write your past to make you look more favorable and it’s saying, “Well, that guy was wrong and he shouldn’t have been like that and that was really stupid and blah blah blah!” Just notice that you have so little control over this babbling and rambling in your head and that lack of control ultimately kills your bliss.

What you want to learn to do is ignore it. Try to constantly catch it and just say, “Shut up, monkey, I’m not interested.” Be right here, right now in the present moment. It’s very, very powerful. Lots of energy. Lots of joy. Lots of ecstasy available and waiting for you. But you have to learn to see or recognize the rambling in your head as completely irrelevant and then stop listening. And in that moment, you’ll be higher than you’ve ever been.

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Making Things Up Kills Opportunities

Originally posted July 13, 2011

The Drunk Monkey generalizes.  In other words, The Drunk Monkey makes things up.  Generalizing is a survival tool.  And a good one at that!  Touch the stove and that animal part of your physiology will direct you to not do it again.  Step into traffic and a car screeches to a halt.  Now your nervous system directs you to look both ways.  Hip hip horay for The Drunk Monkey!

Only problem is, most of your life is not dangerous.  Yet, The Drunk Monkey will associate anything that stresses you with danger.  Then it will begin to speculate that anything like the times you were stressed should be avoided.

When you are in Survival mode you spend enormous amounts of energy avoiding fantasies.  When The Drunk Monkey Generalizes you become hypnotized by a fantasy.

In other words Generalizing = You make things up!!

If you listen to the Drunk Monkey in action you will hear it Judging, assessing, quantifying, categorizing and generalizing.

The Drunk Monkey is not in the business of going for it, taking action, getting excited and living the dream!  The Drunk Monkey doesn’t care about creating pleasant experiences.  It could care less if you feel good.  It could care less about achieving your goals.

If you set a goal, then The Drunk Monkey will go to work inventing a fantasy about how it will all happen.  It will create a set of generalizations to anticipate the future.  In the mean time… The Universe/God/Source Energy/Life Force will conspire upon your behalf, stuff will start to happen, results will start to be produced…BUT…results will be produced in a way that looks different from what The Drunk Monkey anticipated.

EMERGENCY!!!!!  The Drunk Monkey gets scared because its expectations where broken.

When your expectations are broken, you’ve entered the unknown.  The Drunk Monkey hates the unknown and believes that it is a survival situation.  Your body gets pumped full of action chemicals.  You know these chemicals as emotions.  Fear, anger, upset, frustration, doubt… Your body will either attack or run away.  Either response will shoot you in the foot and stop you from achieving the results you want.

The Drunk Monkey wants to survive.  But you know the problem.  You are definitely going to die, someday.  Going for your goals is not dangerous.  Just different then what you do now.

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Baseball & The Power to Create Reality

Originally posted July 26, 2011

Three Umpires were ask how they call a strike in the game of baseball…

Rookie umpire said, ” I look inside the strike zone and I call ‘em the way they are”

The experienced umpire said, “After a while I realized the best I could do is call them the way I see them”

The Master umpire said, “They ain’t nothin’ till I call ‘em!!”

Your life isn’t anything until you call it.

Life isn’t hard.

People aren’t jerks.

You aren’t stupid.

Life isn’t anything until you call it.

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The World as You Know It Doesn’t Exist

Originally posted August 24, 2009

There is no world out there.

Not at least the world you experience.  Yes, there is something out there, but what you are experiencing isn’t it.  What you are experiencing is your opinion, your perception and your conditioning.  How you relate to the world is what the world is for you.  Two people can be in the exact same situation and have completely different experiences.

Are there atoms, electrons and such out there in the world? Apparently science is getting a better grasp on that.  But it takes multimillion dollar machines to see what is really going on in the world.  So the actual reality is not something humans have day-to-day access to.  You and I have access to the information our senses bring in to our consciousness.

Why is this relevant?

Your husband isn’t really a jerk.  That’s just your opinion.  Not the truth.

The president isn’t actually doing anything you say he is.  That’s just your perception of the situation.

The world isn’t all screwed up.  That’s just the way you see it.

There is nothing to fear.  That’s just a biological reaction to the stimulus in the environment.  Other people aren’t afraid of the same things you are.  Therefore you fear is not real or the truth.

Today see the world for what it really is, just your opinion.  Notice how much more relaxed and enjoyable life is.

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How much wealth would create bliss?

istock_000006439150mediumThe answer is NONE.  External factors have nothing to do with how you feel.  Two people can be in the exact same situation and feel completely different.  Bliss, which is defined as supreme happiness, is the natural feeling state of “no mind”.  The mind which I lovingly call The Drunk Monkey uses negative feelings to mobilize the body and move it away from potentially dangerous situations.

When you are feeling bliss it is because you are present to the notion that all is well in your life, nothing needs to change, nothing needs to improve and life is good.  This start is a discipline created by an awareness of the Drunk Monkey followed by a transending of the Drunk Monkey.  Transending the Drunk Monkey means you see it for what it is and no longer give it any value or meaning in your life.  Try this free 20 minute meditation I created called All is Well and tell me how you feel afterwards.

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