Replay: Tame the Drunk Monkey

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Intro

Part I

Part II

Part III

Part IV

Part V

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The Spiritual Way to Make More Money

Making money is pretty easy.  I know that sounds arrogant and I apologize if your Drunk Monkey reacts, BUT that’s the problem.  Your Drunk Monkey has a story about money that limits you.  Money is easy.  Yet, every one says it’s hard.  So you become convinced.  Everyone says it takes hard work.  And part of what they are saying is true.

You do have to work and work can be hard.  But what makes it hard is your resistance to it.  What makes it hard is not recognizing fundamentals like rest cycles.  If you keep pushing yourself to produce you will burn out which stops you dead in your tracks.  That often leads to panic and fear because burnout stops the money flow.  To counter this, you must retrain The Drunk Monkey and you must treat the body in a way that gives you maximum energy.

Here are two spiritual ways to make more money.  By spiritual I mean contextual or based in perspective rather then action.  Change your perspective and you change your life.

1.  You need to get The Drunk Monkey focused on something empowering.  Try this:  Go into a deep state of gratitude about the money you do have.  Make lists of all the great stuff money has bought.  Make lists of all the great experiences money has afforded you.  Make lists of all the opportunities you have had because you had the money you had.  This will simply put you into a great mood and open you up to more good.  You get what you focus on…PERIOD!

2.  Next you need to take care of your money making vehicle.  Also known as your body.  If you abuse the body, then your ability to make money is hindered.  The spiritual perspective is that Body is Temple.  You must treat the body as such.  I suggest you start taking your MEDS everyday.  Meditation, Exercise, Diet & Sleep (MEDS).  Even one minute of meditation a day will change your life.  Doing some push ups changes your state.  Eating foods that give you energy is key to staying optimistic.  Optimism is attractive to deals, money and opportunities.  When you are sleep deprived you can’t think straight no matter how much coffee you drink.  You need to be in top form to make more money!

 

Life Coaching Greg Smith – Why I’m Leaving Goldman Sachs Part 2

The banking industry is under attack and the flavor of the week is Greg Smith’s, New York Times article, “Why I am Leaving Goldman Sachs.”

I generally have no opinion of such matters, yet, this one hits close to home. I am a coach to some very powerful executives at Goldman Sachs and frankly, they are leading the transformation of Wall Street from the mindset of greed, back to the mindset of service and doing what’s right for the customer.

If I was coaching Greg Smith, he would likely be a central “Change Maker” in Goldman right now. I respect Greg for his courage and would encourage him to use it to serve the nation, his customers and himself.  In doing so, Goldman Sachs would become a better place to work and undeniably more profitable.

Here’s the coaching I would give Greg today: In his article he states, “The firm has veered so far from the place I joined right out of college, that I can no longer, in good conscience, say that I identify with what it stands for.”

Greg, what you are for, is more powerful than what you are against.  What you resist will persist.  What you accept will transform.  You have the power to transform what appears to be unchangeable aspects of the world, with a simple change in perspective.

Here’s the perspective I would suggest you adopt:

Everything changes.  Nothing stays the same. If you don’t like the change, then do something about it.  You are not a victim of your circumstances. The only reason you would avoid standing up for what you believe in, is the fear of not being accepted. I understand this fear. I have never seen a more political environment in a company.

When you tame The Drunk Monkey, (my nickname for the talking in your head) you can release your attachment to being liked and fitting in.  When you stop trying to be liked by people and take a stand for what you believe in, the people around you are magnetized to you.

Here are the questions you need to ask yourself:
1.  What am I committed to?
2.  How can I be a part of the solution?
3.  What changes will I need to make in my process to bring the culture back into alignment, with the principles I hold so dear?

This is not an easy thing to do.  The Drunk Monkey in your head can not stand change and begins to diminish it, make it wrong and justify why things should go back to the way they were.  The Drunk Monkey tells you to simply oppose the new conditions rather than do anything about it.  Apparently, complaining and resigning ones self to long term misery, is more appealing to The Drunk Monkey, than the short term pain of confronting the situation and creating the change you seek.

Gandhi said it best, “Be the change you want to see in the world.”

Being the change takes courage. It takes extreme self honesty. You have to learn to tame The Drunk Monkey in your head and no longer allow its perspective to run your life.

If you allow yourself to be a puppet to The Drunk Monkey, your life will be mostly frustration, with moments of happiness and peace.

Tame The Drunk Monkey and you start to feel happiness and peace most of the time, with brief moments of frustration.

Greg, I whole heatedly admit I do not know the entire situation that you faced, but I am glad that you had the courage to say what you did.  It is giving me an opportunity to use your words as a teaching tool for the people who care about my message. For that I’m grateful.

How to Be Happy Instantly

There is one phrase that makes you unhappy.  Give up saying this phrase and you will be happy instantly.

“This Shouldn’t Be!”

Nobody escapes this fatal mistake of perception.  Each of us arrogantly believes that we are the rulers of the universe.  Each of us secretly believes that we are right about life.  We actually have the audacity to believe that what we think is right and what the world is doing is wrong.

This prevailing mindset is born of ignorance.  It is ignorant to believe that you know how people should be or how life should be.  Life is lifing along… doing what it’s doing… regardless of your opinion about it.  Yet, The Drunk Monkey in your head has an opinion about everything… including things it knows nothing about.

When you say, “This shouldn’t be!” you resist what “is” as if your resistance will actually make a difference.  It never does.  It only makes you feel bad.  Negativity is the resistance you have to how life actually is.  If you want less negativity in life and more happiness, then you must let life be exactly the way that it is… and then make new decisions from there.  Let life and people be exactly as they are, then move forward from there.

The Drunk Monkey believes that it’s job is to be the dictator of the planet and tell everyone what to do.  This only leads to suffereing.  No one cares about what you think or how you see the world.  Haven’t you noticed that by now?

The antidote is to simply be honest and admit, “This must be perfect.  It isn’t what I prefer but no one cares about my preferences but me.  So how do I turn this situation into something positive for me.”  This takes mental conditioning.  You must be surrounded by people who are also being honest and declaring that the world is perfect and the only thing that makes it imperfect is their opinion.  You must keep listening to lectures about the subject, reading books and taking classes.

Eventually an powerful commitment to declaring the world is perfect exactly as it is will catapult you into an infinite space of peace, flow and happiness.  From there, you will become more productive and more powerful then you have ever been in your life.  Isn’t that cool?  Try it today.

Life Coaching Greg Smith – Why I am Leaving Goldman Sachs – Part 1

Last night I was having a casual meeting with one of my clients who worked closely with Greg Smith at Goldman Sachs.   If you haven’t seen it, Greg wrote a very polarizing article for the New York Times recently called, “Why I am Leaving Goldman Sachs

I have been coaching executives at Goldman Sachs for years now and I completely understand Greg’s negative view of Goldman.  Many employees and partners alike have this same perspective. Yet, Without realizing it, Greg Smith and others at Goldman are drinking the very poison they hope will kill Goldman Sachs.

If I was life coaching Greg, this is what I would say to him.

In his article Greg says, “I believe I have worked here long enough to understand the trajectory of its culture, its people and its identity. And I can honestly say that the environment now is as toxic and destructive as I have ever seen it.”
Greg, you are right.  But The Drunk Monkey (my nickname for your mind) is not objective. The Drunk Monkey, in your head, is a survival machine that defaults to justifying your position.

Think about it like this.  Somewhere along the line, your feelings got hurt or a personal barrier got crossed.  Not hard to imagine, working in the world of high finance these days.  When that happened, The Drunk Monkey began to protect you from a future of hurt.  This is it’s job: Steer you away from danger. The only problem is, the Drunk Monkey generalizes.  So one person crosses the line and now your mind begins to look for more people who are behaving in bad ways. And wouldn’t you know it, they seemed to be everywhere.

There are billions of things you could focus on in any given moment.  Yet, what appears in your life is what you are focused on.  If you are focused on the greedy scum bags in the organization, that’s what you see.
Here’s a simple exercise to prove my point.  Close your eyes and see the color pink.  Think of as many pink things as you can.  Now as you continue through your day, you will notice that pink seems to stick out to you more then it did before. This is a normal brain function. You get what you focus on. If you focus on the evil greed bankers in your culture, then you will soon only see those kinds of bankers.

The second part of this coaching session would be focused on the mirror effect.  The Drunk Monkey in your head does not like in other people, what you are unwilling to accept about yourself.  In other words, the world is a mirror. Greg, the toxicity that you see is actually the internal struggles of your own negative aspects.

The next step in our life coaching process would be to identify those traits within you and begin to see them for what they really are; stories you have made up about yourself that aren’t true. When you see that you were domesticated like a dog to think, act and believe what your family group trained into you, you instantly become more compassionate towards others.

This concludes our first coaching session Greg.

I am currently working with several executives at Goldman Sachs and they too see negative elements in the culture. But unlike Greg, I have guided them to focus on what they are “for” and not what they are “against.”  In doing so, they have become more productive, more effective and absolutely more satisfied with work.

Let’s Tame The Drunk Monkey Together! – Join Me Live Wednesday

The Drunk Monkey, in your head, is stopping you having the life you want.

I know exactly what to do to tame The Drunk Monkey and I want to teach you some of my tricks.

Join me Wednesday 10/19 for my next live webcast Taming The Drunk Monkey

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This Is What I’m Going To Teach You:

- 2 Things the Drunk Monkey does to screw up your life
- 2 Simple tricks to get it under control

 

This Is What Will Happen Once You Learn To Tame The Drunk Monkey:

- Peace of mind
- Unbridled confidence
- Expanded social life
- Saying NO to requests that don’t work for you
- Extreme energy and motivation
- YOU FEEL HAPPY

 

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