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Let’s Tame The Drunk Monkey Together! – Join Me Live Wednesday

Matthew — Mon, 17 Oct 2011 14:00:15 +0000

The Drunk Monkey, in your head, is stopping you having the life you want.

I know exactly what to do to tame The Drunk Monkey and I want to teach you some of my tricks.

Join me Wednesday 10/19 for my next live webcast Taming The Drunk Monkey

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Topic: Taming The Drunk Monkey

Date: Wednesday, October 19th
Time: 12:00pm (Pacific) / 2:00pm (Central) / 3:00pm (Eastern)
Duration: 90 Minutes
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This Is What I’m Going To Teach You:

- 2 Things the Drunk Monkey does to screw up your life
- 2 Simple tricks to get it under control

This Is What Will Happen Once You Learn To Tame The Drunk Monkey:

- Peace of mind
- Unbridled confidence
- Expanded social life
- Saying NO to requests that don’t work for you
- Extreme energy and motivation
- YOU FEEL HAPPY

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Your coach,

Matthew Ferry

P.S. Tame The Drunk Monkey and you will feel more peace of mind, have more confidence and do what it takes to live your dream. Be there!

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The Spiritual Drunk Monkey

Matthew — Mon, 20 Dec 2010 22:09:49 +0000

A client writes in, ” Sometimes I get impatient when people don’t get it (ie. They assume things, are negative…don’t think like me)…how can I become better at understanding people?? My ego gets out of whack when it wants to impose its beliefs about how things should be onto others…when my true self knows there is no right or wrong.”

I call this the spiritual Drunk Monkey. Once you become a spiritual person you put less weight in what The Drunk Monkey says so it becomes spiritual in order to get your attention again.

Your judgement is a futile attempt at surviving longer by trying to be better or fix what is broken. See The Drunk Monkey for what it is; a biological mechanism that protects you from threats that don’t exist.

Your Opinion is The Source of Your Suffering

Matthew — Mon, 20 Dec 2010 20:58:30 +0000

Do you think the world should bow down to your infinite wisdom? If so, that mindset will make you quite unhappy. No one really cares what you think. No one cares about your opinion. No one wants to know what you have to say. Everyone is just doing what they think will make them happy.

Your happiness will ultimately come when you have the realization that your opinion doesn’t count. Nobody cares. If you’ll let that go, and just accept that you have an opinion and other people have an opinion, and that there’s going to be times when they’re aligned, and there’s gonna be times when they’re not aligned.

If you do not allow your opinion to determine whether you’re happy or not, you’re going to be a lot happier. Your opinion is the source of your suffering. There’s nothing out there in the world that is causing you to suffer. Your opinion is the source of your suffering.

Her Man And The Drunk Monkey

Matthew — Fri, 17 Dec 2010 14:39:46 +0000

Today I told a client, “Have you ever considered that he’s the right man for you but your have the wrong Drunk Monkey for him?”

Ever wonder why we are drawn to people that we make wrong?

The Drunk Monkey wants to make babies and simultaneously wants to protect you from other tribes that might be dangerous.

Welcome to being an animal.

How Come I Am So High?

Matthew — Mon, 13 Sep 2010 13:46:09 +0000

One of my clients wrote me saying, “Aside from little agitations, my mood is phenomenal using your techniques. I feel so high. What is that?”

I told her that this is her natural state. Ecstasy is what is under The Drunk Monkey’s bull sh**! When you learn to ignore The Drunk Monkey there is no more need to medicate or distract yourself cause you feel so good.

Keep Your Monkey in Check for Christmas

Matthew — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 15:19:05 +0000

Monkey's got your back

Your parents!

Your in-laws!

Your siblings!

Your children!

Lions and tigers and bears…oh my!

Instead of reacting to people this holiday, see The Drunk Monkey for what it really is: a biological mechanism designed to steer you away from danger.

Notice that a difference of opinion from your mother-in-law is not dangerous. See The Drunk Monkey reacting as if it is life or death. Your blood boils, you get frustrated, you get catty, annoyed, pissed off, agitated. All of these emotions are signs that The Drunk Monkey perceives danger. Your relatives and friends are not dangerous. They are just different.

Different is Not Dangerous

Now, let’s step back. If you were a caveman/woman and you were faced with another human that behaved differently then you, then different would be dangerous. HELLO! You are not a prehistoric, so stop acting like one.

Notice how everyone is just doing the best they can over the holidays.

Kill The Monkey In My Head!!

Matthew — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 15:05:26 +0000

In my last post, I discussed a question I got from a client regarding the positive power of negativity. After reading my post he responded with this,

“I guess my problem is that I choose to suffer, get pissed off, become the victim, scream, ‘Why me!!!’ or go into a state of hopelessness…”

Here’s my response:

It’s not your problem that YOU choose to suffer, get pissed off, become the victim, scream, “Why me!” or go into a state of hopelessness… It’s your Drunk Monkey’s problem. The problem you have is that you think what The Drunk Monkey is doing is important, real and valid.

With further examination you discover the what The Drunk Monkey does is just automatic biology. No different then pooping. You don’t make pooping mean anything. It’s stinky, nasty and inconvenient. You just accept that your body does this and you make room for it in your life. So it is with your thoughts. They are angry, judging, vengeful, upset, pissed off, worried, annoyed etc. This is all a mechanism for avoiding potential danger. The only problem is, you are not in danger.

Give The Drunk Monkey Space

So you just give The Drunk Monkey the space it needs to whine and complain, make everything and everyone wrong and be worried. Then you just go about your day, skipping, happy-go-lucky… knowing that The Drunk Monkey is just doing its job, in a world where it has become irrelevant.

Life Coach Reveals Technique for Releasing Stress

Matthew — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 21:32:38 +0000

What makes you nervous? Usually it is some future The Drunk Monkey in your head is obsessing over. The way to get relaxed is to see it for what it is. The Drunk Monkey in your head, all that talking, is just trying to keep you alive longer by avoiding potentially negative experiences. This is great! Good Job Monkey! The problem happens when it fantasizes about negative futures that don’t even exist. Or when it compares you to some elusive set of standards that don’t exist. Here’s an example:

Lately The Drunk Monkey, my mind, has been telling me that I need to write a new book now and get it published. That if I don’t do this I will lose some elusive window of opportunity. The Drunk Monkey has been saying, “You need to pick your subject and do it or you’ll just be a nobody for the rest of your life!” As you can imagine, lately I’ve felt a little anxious.

The Drunk Monkey has been holding me accountable to some standard that doesn’t exist. Probably because my brother, Tom Ferry, just signed a big publishing deal and is gung ho and excited about it. The Drunk Monkey is comparing me to him and saying, “If he does it, then you better do it or you will really be a nobody!”

Here’s what I say to The Drunk Monkey so that I can relax and let it flow again. “Drunk Monkey, have you seen my life? I’ve got a lot of amazing things happening right now. I’ve got A B C D (I make a big list) and all of those things are awesome! Could I write a book? Yes! Probably 4 different books at this moment! But am I in the book business? No!! I’m in the coaching business. I’m building my coaching company Monkey!!! Hello!! Very different business. Drunk Monkey, when the time is right, I promise to write you a book so you can be big and famous and have millions of adoring fans. In the mean time I’ going to enjoy every minute of my current objectives!”

So what is that? Get real about what is working now. What you like now. What makes you happy now. Don’t let The Drunk Monkey cause you stress by fantasizing that the future is bleak. Don’t let The Drunk Monkey hold you accountable to things that aren’t even real or important. Be clear on what you want and what you are committed too.

Try the 10/10 visualization everyday. That always helps you stay in a good place.

Life Coaching Tips to Make Happiness Automatic

Matthew — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 14:07:19 +0000

My clients are generally the biggest of the big in their respective industries. Each of them has created massive success. Yet the process they used to get there often seems inapplicable to the other aspects of life, like happiness or peace. The process is the same. You must create structures, systems, disciplines and processes that make your happiness automatic. Here are three tips that will start you on this process.

1. Gratitude. The Drunk Monkey (my nickname for the mind) is designed to look for what is wrong and try to fix it, kill it or avoid it. The Drunk Monkey does not spend any time looking at what works. What works is not a threat and therefore deserves little of your mind’s attention. Yet focusing on what works is a powerful discipline that creates automatic happiness.

2. Acceptance. Dr David Hawkins, author of “Power vs. Force” says, “Acceptance is the great healer of strife, conflict and upset.” The Drunk Monkey does not spend time accepting. The Drunk Monkey’s job is to notice differences and declare things that are unfamiliar a threat. The Drunk Monkey uses negative emotions to move your body away from what is unknown, different, strange, unusual. To achieve automatic happiness you must practice questioning The Drunk Monkey’s motives. By seeking to accept you instantly go into a peaceful happy place.

3. Self-Examination. When you see The Drunk Monkey (your mind) for what it really is, just an unexamined accumulation of reactions, you start to question everything it is doing. Every client I work with is taught to question everything The Drunk Monkey says. Stop believing in your thoughts. When you do, happiness becomes your natural state. Steven Sadleir author of “Looking For God” says, “Anything other than happiness and peace is just a state of mind.”

Today consider that your life has structure that creates feelings you never designed. With awareness comes flexibility. When you start being more flexible, new options appear. Options give you power. When you feel empowered, you feel happy. Awareness is the key.

How To Move Forward Without Fear

Matthew — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 16:55:22 +0000

The Drunk Monkey is always trying to keep you away from things that might be uncomfortable. Your new goals and dreams ARE going to be uncomfortable. New isn’t easy to experience because it’s different, unusual and weird. Your new goals and dreams are unknown and therefore disconcerting to the mind.

The way forward is the present moment. The future is dark and scary to The Drunk Monkey (your mind), the present moment is a flashlight that you are shining into the future to see what is there.

Today practice gratitude, appreciation, and practice understanding today. Notice the beauty around you. Pay attention to the fact that all is well in this moment. The future isn’t coming the way your mind thinks it is. Quit allowing The Drunk Monkey to fantasize about the future that isn’t coming. You don’t know what’s going to happen next. Stay HERE now instead. From there moving forward is easier to handle.