Sue McDaniel Interview

I’m bringing you another interview with someone you should know! Sue McDaniel has a love of animals, music, books, nature, gardening, writing and art. She has co-authored Learning, Changing and Leading: Keys to Success in the 21st Century, with Chet Dixon. I.M. Heart is her first solo self-publication. Sue’s professional experience includes: teaching, development, state agency governance, speaking nationally and internationally, and research. A teacher at heart, Sue wants to make a difference in the lives of people. You can find her on her web site, http://www.imheart.net/

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Don’t Let Happiness Depend on Beauty

Many of my clients are rich, wealthy, famous, and powerful. It’s interesting, because along with all of that, some of them are very good-looking as well. And what I noticed as I’m working with them is that there’s a danger in being beautiful. And that danger is that you put your source of happiness and well-being in the value being beautiful.

The truth is that no matter how much surgery you get, how many treatments you get, your body is going to deteriorate and your beauty is going to wane. There is a short period in which we all experience that sort of youthful beauty. Many of you get stuck in the place where the drunk money says, “Well, you know, that is my value.”

If you’re thinking “I am happy when I am beautiful, and I am not happy when I am not beautiful.” you’re screwed! That’s because there’s going to be a tremendous amount of your life in which the drunk monkey in your head is going to declare, “You are no longer the beautiful creature that you were before.”

You’re going to have to take on tactics that bring you happiness and fulfillment now without having some external event be in a particular way. In other words, if your circumstances have to be a certain way in order for you to be happy, then you’re in trouble. There’s only one thing we can count on, and that is change.

Everything is going to change. Everything is shifting, so the more valuable thing to do is to take on learning how to be happy now.

The Law of Attraction Can Work For You

A lot of people tell me, “Matthew, the law of attraction doesn’t seem to work anymore for me.” I know that there are a lot of things happening that make people think it’s not working.

The first factor is the economy. A few years back, when the economy was absolutely on fire, and everything was easy and just flowing, you could easily make money. You could take on new projects, make things happen. I mean, the optimism was off the charts. The ability to make things happen was spectacular. That was also a perfect time for that movie, “The Secret,” to come out because it really gave the illusion that you could be anyone and produce results through your thinking.

Conversely, now we’re in a time where people are a lot more skeptical. There’s a lot more fear that is in our environment, and you need to take care of your inner world in order to produce the results that you want. Things don’t come as easily now. The law of attraction still works, absolutely.

You didn’t really need to have your other emotions perfectly in line when the economy was amazing, but now you do. You need to get yourself into a place of optimism, joy, and enthusiasm. You have to. And so, I request that you watch some of my videos, and read some of my other blog posts, and learn some of the techniques and tactics that I give you to get your emotions in the right place. Once you get your emotions into a place where you feel great, then good stuff happens, regardless of what’s going on in the economy.

The law of attraction absolutely can work for you. In a down economy, in an up economy, no matter what’s happening, but you must be able to control you emotional state, and stay in a positive and powerful place, or it’s not going to work.

Dr. Diana Kirschner Interview

This is another one of my interviews with someone YOU need to know! Dr. Diana Kirschner is the author of Love in 90 days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love, which is a best selling book all about how to find love. Her story is really amazing. Dr. Diana was socially phobic and mute as a child! She was born into a Sicilian immigrant family as the 5th daughter to a father who only valued boys. This caused her to have serious self-esteem issues and as a young adult to have problems in dating and finding love. She studied how to create self love and love with a partner, got a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and has helped thousands of singles find love. She also was able to become happily married. This is a great interview for any of you out there who need relationship help or who are looking for love!! You can find Dr. Diana on her web site, http://www.lovein90days.com/

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Your Mind is a Source of Your Suffering

If you pay attention to your mind, you’ll see that it is always judging, assessing, evaluating, quantifying, and categorizing everything. And it’s doing that because it wants to keep you safe. If you listen to all of that talking in your mind, the drunk monkey, you’ll see that what it’s trying to do is figure out what’s going on out there in the world. The drunk monkey wants you to go towards things that are pleasurable, and away from things that will be negative or potentially dangerous.

The problem is that we actually believe that the mind is reality. It’s not. The mind has no idea what reality is. Often, your expectations of reality are broken. Why? Because you premeditated that life would be one way, and it turned out another way. That is the source of most of your suffering.

They key for you is to stop believing what the mind has to say. Start noticing that it has a job, biological function, similar to your bowels. Your bowels are processing waste, and excreting it out of the body. Your mind is observing what’s going on in the world, and identifying potential threats, and moving towards pleasurable things.

That’s the mind’s job. That’s what it’s doing. But that’s not the truth. And if you put all of your reality, all of your life, all of your world into your thoughts, you’re going to be miserable. You need to learn to move beyond your thoughts.

Happiness is a Skill

To be unhappy, it’s just ignorant. Happiness is a skill. You can learn how to do it. All you need to do is focus on accepting people exactly the way that they are. You also need to accept yourself exactly the way that you are, and accept your situation exactly the way that it is. That’s just a skill.

You’ve got to notice that your mind, the drunk monkey in your head, does not like life being the way that it is. It wants life to be different than it is. And so, you need to learn exactly how to get your mind under control. One great way to do this is to work on appreciation.

So this week, what if you focused on appreciation the whole week? What if next week you focused on acceptance, accepting people, accepting yourself, accepting life, accepting the situation? What if the week after that you focused on gratitude? If you would focus on appreciation and gratitude you will go into an incredible state of happiness. To be unhappy is just ignorant.

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