Different Does Not Equal Dangerous

Stop protecting yourself from people who aren’t attacking you. Nobody is attacking you. People are just doing what they’re doing. They’re just doing the best they can. If there is someone yelling and screaming at you, it’s because, in some way, you have threatened them. Your existence has threatened their existence.

Stop believing that when people act differently than you, that it’s a threat. Remember, everyone was raised by different family groups, different cultures. And different does not equal dangerous! If you listen to the drunk monkey in your head, you will see that the drunk monkey actually believes that different is dangerous. You must let this go because the truth of the matter is everybody is just doing the best they can in the moment.

Be in a Perpetual State of Now

You are in a perpetual state of now. And I know that a lot of people think “but what does it mean exactly?” Well, it basically means that the drunk monkey in your head is constantly fantasizing about what’s coming up in the future. It’s obsessed with controlling the next minute, the next second, the next hour, the next day, the next year. And I want you to notice that there’s not much the drunk monkey can do about it.

The wisest thing to do is to ignore it and to say, “You know what, monkey, what is going to happen will be perfect. I have things I am committed to. I’m not being irresponsible. I do set goals and have objectives. But obsessing and going over and over and over it in my head right now really is not doing us any good.”

Another thing that the drunk monkey does that keeps you out of the present moment is it’s constantly thinking about the past. It’s regretting. It’s trying to re-write your past to make you look more favorable and it’s saying, “Well, that guy was wrong and he shouldn’t have been like that and that was really stupid and blah blah blah!” Just notice that you have so little control over this babbling and rambling in your head and that lack of control ultimately kills your bliss.

What you want to learn to do is ignore it. Try to constantly catch it and just say, “Shut up, monkey, I’m not interested.” Be right here, right now in the present moment. It’s very, very powerful. Lots of energy. Lots of joy. Lots of ecstasy available and waiting for you. But you have to learn to see or recognize the rambling in your head as completely irrelevant and then stop listening. And in that moment, you’ll be higher than you’ve ever been.

Do I Need to be a Monk to Achieve Ridiculous Bliss?

To be in a state of ridiculous bliss, do I do a day of silence or can I just be in the world? Clients have said to me “I mean, my life is chaotic, Matthew. How do I get into ridiculous bliss? Do I have to like escape and be a monk and, you know, go mediate in a cave?”

No, no, no, no, no. Now, is it effective for you to take time for yourself to think and to be introspective? Yes, of course. That’s very effective. And I meditate every single day, and I highly recommend that you meditate every single day. But I find it equally valuable to fully engage the world, to just play full out and then use my techniques of aligning, accepting, allowing, and honoring as tools to bring ridiculous bliss into every aspect of my life.

You can do the exact same thing. So do you do a day of silence or do you engage the world full blast? I say you try both.

Are You Spiritual or Resigned?

I often wonder if spiritual people are actually just resigned and they’re using their spirituality as their reason for not creating the life that they dream of. I know that I have many, many times said to myself, “Well, you know, I’m just practicing being spiritual.” But my life sucked. My life was a disaster. And I’ve found that when I take responsibility for my life being amazing and I bring spiritual principles to each and every category of my life, what happens is my ability to be spiritual is just phenomenal and I’m just out of control with happiness and peace.

Are you using your spirituality as a cop out, a way in which you don’t have to be responsible for making your life amazing? I’d be willing to bet that there are places you’re doing that. Cut it out. Start using your spiritual principles to actually make your life extraordinary everywhere. Ultimately, a spiritual person is someone who is extremely responsible. Is that you?

Labels Make You Happy

We make labels for everything. Believing in the labels that you give things will kill off your happiness. See, nothing is anything real until you show up. No situation is what it is until you describe it. Now, the question is, are you describing the situation in a way that is delightful to you and you enjoy, it or are you describing the situation in a way that drives you crazy and makes you miserable?

You get to choose how you describe things. You get to choose the labels that you give things. So if you’re choosing, why not choose labels that feel good, that make you happy? Try that today. Start to give labels to things that make you happy.

Human Being or Human Doing?

So, are you a human being or are you a human doing? Most people literally operate like they are a human doing. “Here is what I do.” “I do this.” We are focused on the action that we are going to take. We’re focused on the result that we want to accomplish. But if you are going to experience ridiculous bliss in your life, and I highly recommend that, you need to begin to focus on the experience that you want to have in your life.

Do you want to experience more joy? Do you want to experience more love? Do you want to experience more kindness or compassion? Do you want to feel exhilarated, exuberant? Do you want to feel uplifted? How do you want to feel? Do you want to feel connected? Do you want to feel loved? Because ultimately, my friend, what you focus on, you become. So, if you’re focused on achieving outcomes and hoping that those outcomes will then produce the feelings that you want, that won’t happen.

No external thing out there is going to change how you feel in here. See, you’ve got to get out of your outcome orientation and get into your experience orientation. Who do you want to be? How do you want to feel? What do you want to experience? Set some goals in that area today.

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