Do I Have to be a Monk to Experience Bliss?

“Do I have to become a monk and sit in a cave to have wild incredible states of enlightenment, pure bliss, pure joy, pure ecstasy? Or can I continue to participate in the world?”

This is what one of my clients asked me when he began to investigate the idea of killing his drunk monkey. The death of the drunk monkey is how you reach an enlightened state–the drunk monkey doesn’t talk to you anymore. And believe me, it will be the happiest day of your life!

So, my client says, “I’m afraid because I’m on Wall Street and I’m successful. What if I go to a place of total detachment and just want to bow out in life and not do anything?” and said, “Yo, that is your drunk monkey being afraid of getting into a place of enlightened joy. No, you don’t have to sit in the cave. You don’t have to deprive yourself of life. You don’t have to renounce the world in order for you to get into unbelievable states of joy.” In fact, you can speed up the process of getting to joy by being in these contrasting states that you experience in your world; consider that everything in your world right now is an opportunity to give you more joy, more peace, more love, more fulfillment by demonstrating or showing you the opposite; contrast is the key.

Are you a Casualty of Positivity?

Are you a casualty of positivity? So many people are. “Matthew, I am positive, and I do all the positive things to make myself as super positive as I possibly can, and my life sucks; now what?” Most people don’t realize that positivity is the result of a particular point of view. You might be able to act positively, but underneath it if you are resisting the world, if you’re judging, assessing and evaluating people; if you’re judging yourself; if you’re making yourself wrong for making others wrong; if you’re resisting the world, you’re never going to actually experience true positivity and optimism.

True positivity and optimism comes from being in a state of appreciation, understanding; taking on an initiative of kindness; being someone who is completely releasing judgment. True positivity comes when you see that the drunk monkey in your head is not even really on your side. When all of those kinds of things start to occur, you experience an inner quality. This energy just starts to take over you. This optimism that you cannot even stop begins to take over you. That is true positivity, and that occurs from a new frame of reference versus taking on positive behaviors.

The Drunk Monkey and Enlightenment

Chogyam Trungpa says, “Enlightenment is ego’s ultimate disappointment.”

I call the ego The Drunk Monkey. The Drunk Monkey believes that enlightenment is something to be achieved and will some how be “its” ultimate accomplishment. When in fact it is only the total surrender of The Drunk Monkey itself.

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