Matthew Ferry's Blog

No!

As a life coach, very often my job is to support people in staying balanced, calm and peaceful when all hell is breaking loose in their life.  I’ve made a list of 10 ways you allow fear to get a hold of you.  At the end I give you a very simple solution.

1.  Listening to your thoughts. Your thoughts are designed to keep you alive, not make your happy.  Thoughts are automatic and generally focused on what is wrong and what needs to be avoided.  No happiness is available in the mind.

2.  Forgetting who you are. Ask a physicist and they will tell you that you are energy.  Energy can not be created or destroyed.  It can only change form.  Your body is definitely going to die.  But that’s just your body.  Consider who you are is the energy that gives your body life.  Consider that you are infinite.  Do I have any evidence of this?  No.  But it helps to relieve the fear.  Which is good enough for me.

3.  Distrusting your purpose. When you don’t trust your purpose, you feel confused and hopeless.  If you don’t know your purpose consider doing a Discover Your Purpose mentoring call with one of my coaches.  Call my office to set one up: 877-777-1970 x78.

4.  When you get fooled into believing in reality. There is an intrinsic nature to life.  But you don’t have a relationship with that.  Physicists spend their lives trying to decode actual reality.  As a human being your reality is what you think about life.  Fear gets a hold of you when you forget that you are the creator of your experience and allow The Drunk Monkey to determine your reality.

5.  Making the “I’m not there yet mindset” wrong. Life is a journey.  You are creative.  You are constantly creating.  With every new idea you are suddenly in a “I’m not there yet” mindset.  This is the nature of life and it’s not bad.  You are forever emerging into what is next in life.  Progressive, unfolding and not there yet.  That’s the way life is.  The Drunk Monkey believes you must arrive, accomplish and complete to be somebody.  It never happens.  The moment you start getting close to your current dream, the next one appears in your imagination and instantly knocks you back to “I’m not there yet”.

6.  Comparing yourself to others. The Drunk Monkey is a survival machine.  It wants you to be the most beautiful, the strongest, smartest, toughest, etc.  It’s all an act designed to pull the opposite sex towards you so that you can spread your DNA.  We don’t need you to populate the planet any more.  Getting caught up in comparing furthers the fear that you are not enough.

7.  Buying into other people’s drama. People believe that The Drunk Monkey in their head is the truth.  People believe what they see on TV is the truth.  Using muscle testing it is evident that your thoughts and the news are mostly false.  You will die and no drama will stop that.  Give up the drama and the fear will subside.

8.  Not meditating. Nothing will keep you in fear more then believing in The Drunk Monkey.  Meditation is one of the only ways to keep your perspective and see The Drunk Monkey for what it is, “A Survival Machine”.

9.  Not eating in an effective way. Too much sugar and too many empty calories weaken your body and subsequently weaken your mindset.  So many of our clients ruin their happiness and get sucked into fear by over-polluting their body.

10.  Having too much alcohol. Alcohol weakens your body and weakens your mindset.  It takes most people 1-2 days to recover from drinking too much alcohol.  These few days are often times of mental torment and fear.  So consider limiting it.

To help you stay out of fear, consider doing my 15 day free e-course called 15 Bulletproof Strategies to get inspired and in action on your dreams now!  Looking forward to helping you get out of fear, today.