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December 10, 2010 – 2:08 pm
Stop protecting yourself from people who aren’t attacking you. Nobody is attacking you. People are just doing what they’re doing. They’re just doing the best they can. If there is someone yelling and screaming at you, it’s because, in some way, you have threatened them. Your existence has threatened their existence.
Stop believing that when people act differently than you, that it’s a threat. Remember, everyone was raised by different family groups, different cultures. And different does not equal dangerous! If you listen to the drunk monkey in your head, you will see that the drunk monkey actually believes that different is dangerous. You must let this go because the truth of the matter is everybody is just doing the best they can in the moment.
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August 17, 2009 – 9:55 am
Has it ever occurred to you that your personality is a hindrance to getting what you want out of life?
It is amazing how many sales people, executives and entrepreneurs believe that their personality is their strong suit and fundamental reason for their success. I propose that your personality is actually the glass ceiling that has held you back from achieving the profound happiness and success you have been searching for.
Why is your personality the glass ceiling?
The “you” that you are… just like the “Matthew Ferry” that I am, is nothing more than an accumulated set of habitual ways of dealing with the world. I am not actually Matthew Ferry just like you are not actually your name. Your personality began forming in early childhood as a way of manipulating the people in your environment to keep you around. The personality is based in fear.
I don’t know about your life, but I can tell you that so often I have relied on my personality to get what I want and so often I have been disappointed with the results. Because my personality is not flexible and therefore it limits and stops progress. When confronted with an unknown situation the personality reacts with fear or anger or hiding.
The habitual way you deal with the world is what stops you from achieving profound states of happiness and success. The habitual way of dealing with the world is your personality. Today, notice how there is a set of habits running the show and not your conscious choices.
By the way, I am doing one of my transformative free webinars on Wednesday at 3pm. If you want to get inspired and take action, then join me here.
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July 6, 2009 – 9:22 am
One of my very powerful clients has been fighting for her financial life. To make things worse, she started having marriage trouble as well. Funny how those so often go together.
She has been resisting everything. “I will not allow myself to be a loser! I’ve never been broke and I’m not about to start at age 58!!” she would spit with venom through her teeth at me. I kept encouraging her to surrender. Often people misunderstand that word. In my world, surrender doesn’t mean to lie down and give up. Surrender means to quit fighting with the wave that you are caught up in, relax, regroup and get ready for the inspiration that follows.
When you are out in the ocean and a big wave hits you, you can fight it but you won’t win. The key is to relax completely and output zero energy. When you do, the opportunity to surface will present itself and when it does you will have the energy to take it.
Same with life. When you go into a calm peaceful state, opportunities present themselves and suddenly magic occurs.
My client finally surrendered. She faced her fears of becoming financially drowned and her marriage dying. She realized that she would be okay either way. As soon as she let go and let God, magic started happening everywhere. Money started trickling in again, which gave her hope. Her new peaceful state started creating more communication between her and her husband and things started to mend. Magic!
What are you resisting? Who are you resisting?
Dated:
May 19, 2009 – 10:16 am
The quickest way to feeling joy in your life is to stop paying attention to The Drunk Monkey (your mind). Life is so much more enjoyable when you don’t pay too much attention to the rambling bumbling insanity in your head. Today just focus on the beauty that is all around you. Pay attention to air on your skin, the sun on your face or the smell of flowers. When you do, you will feel joy. When you feel joy, life is easy, effortless and enjoyable. Isn’t that what you want?
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bliss, god force, Happiness, harmony, Joy, Life Coach, Life Coaching, love, Peace, self realization
Dated:
May 9, 2009 – 11:52 am
The answer is NONE. External factors have nothing to do with how you feel. Two people can be in the exact same situation and feel completely different. Bliss, which is defined as supreme happiness, is the natural feeling state of “no mind”. The mind which I lovingly call The Drunk Monkey uses negative feelings to mobilize the body and move it away from potentially dangerous situations.
When you are feeling bliss it is because you are present to the notion that all is well in your life, nothing needs to change, nothing needs to improve and life is good. This start is a discipline created by an awareness of the Drunk Monkey followed by a transending of the Drunk Monkey. Transending the Drunk Monkey means you see it for what it is and no longer give it any value or meaning in your life. Try this free 20 minute meditation I created called All is Well and tell me how you feel afterwards.
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Dated:
March 24, 2009 – 11:58 pm
Monkey in the Mirror
One of our Inspired Action Coaching clients is having a breakthrough. Not only has she forgiven her mother, father and stepmother in the last two weeks… she has also started having a lot of luck in her prospecting for new business. People seem to be nicer and more pleasant.
News Flash: No one is anything until you show up.
Today she comments, “Today my son’s teacher appeared differently. Normally I judge and assess this lady because I never really liked her. Yet, today it was like I looked at her for the first time and saw the kindness in her eyes. It was pretty cool.”
You see your reflection in other people. There are no jerks in the world until you show up. People aren’t anything until you label them. You get what you put out. When you are cool, others show up cool. When you are nasty, others show up nasty. You are getting what you are giving. There is no “others” out there. It’s all your perception.
Today be kind and loving towards everyone you meet and see what happens. You will be shocked to see that people who are normally not kind or loving, make a positive shift and become more kind and loving.
