Be in a Perpetual State of Now

You are in a perpetual state of now. And I know that a lot of people think “but what does it mean exactly?” Well, it basically means that the drunk monkey in your head is constantly fantasizing about what’s coming up in the future. It’s obsessed with controlling the next minute, the next second, the next hour, the next day, the next year. And I want you to notice that there’s not much the drunk monkey can do about it.

The wisest thing to do is to ignore it and to say, “You know what, monkey, what is going to happen will be perfect. I have things I am committed to. I’m not being irresponsible. I do set goals and have objectives. But obsessing and going over and over and over it in my head right now really is not doing us any good.”

Another thing that the drunk monkey does that keeps you out of the present moment is it’s constantly thinking about the past. It’s regretting. It’s trying to re-write your past to make you look more favorable and it’s saying, “Well, that guy was wrong and he shouldn’t have been like that and that was really stupid and blah blah blah!” Just notice that you have so little control over this babbling and rambling in your head and that lack of control ultimately kills your bliss.

What you want to learn to do is ignore it. Try to constantly catch it and just say, “Shut up, monkey, I’m not interested.” Be right here, right now in the present moment. It’s very, very powerful. Lots of energy. Lots of joy. Lots of ecstasy available and waiting for you. But you have to learn to see or recognize the rambling in your head as completely irrelevant and then stop listening. And in that moment, you’ll be higher than you’ve ever been.

How To Pick a Life Coach

How do you pick a life coach?

I think that it really comes down to making sure that that person has done what it is that you want to accomplish. For example, if you want someone to help you start your business, you should pick someone who has built businesses before.

But if you want someone to help you have an effective life, then you want to pick someone who literally has an effective life. They have great relationships with their kids, great relationships with their spouse, their mothers, their fathers. They have good health. They have effective finances. They do well in their business. They have a great social life. They are being effective in the area of contribution. Look for that person who is well-rounded in the areas that you want to take on.

The thing that I love to coach people on is the thing that I have spent my life working on mastering, which is getting into a state of ridiculous, unbelievable bliss, joy, supreme happiness. That’s the thing that I have been spending my life on. And if you’re looking for a life coach to do something like that, I’d love to help you.

If you’re looking for somebody to help you with something else, then choose someone who can help you with that.

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