Serve Without an Agenda

Do you feel as though you’re pushing, struggling and forcing for the things you want in your life? I’d like to invite you to serve, contribute and make a difference for others, and do so with no agenda whatsoever. That means you give up that you need to get anything from people at all. The reason to do this is because more you serve selflessly, without any agenda at all, the more prosperity, happiness and peace comes to you.

See, ultimately, everything that you want comes to you naturally, when you’re in complete alignment and focus. And I have seen that getting yourself to a place where you are serving others, that is the place in which you get into total alignment with who you are.

I request that today you give up that need to produce results for the giving that you’re doing. A lot of people who are contributing, for example, to charities, they’re doing it in an unconscious attempt to purchase salvation. They’re thinking “I want to do this good to try to erase some of the bad doing that I’ve done in the past.” Give that up and just give to give.

On top of that, I want you to really focus on giving up your agenda, when you’re out there in the world. Let’s say you’re networking and you meet someone who is amazing. You just want to do things for them, so that you can, ultimately, bind them into doing things for you. Give that up and just do things for people, support, contribute and make a difference, because it makes you feel great. And ultimately trust that, when you feel great and you’re focused on others, what you want comes to you naturally.

What to do When You React Negatively to the People You Love

Recently, one of my clients wrote to me with the question, “What do I do, when I find myself reacting negatively to the people that I love?” And I start by saying, let’s define love. I say that love is acceptance, total and complete acceptance of all people and all situations, at all times. Now, that’s not easy to attain. Why? Because we have built-in reactions that occur, and I think my client put it so succinctly, “I find myself reacting negatively to the people that I love.”

You’ve got to start to look at what you are holding people accountable to. If you’re reacting negatively to someone, it’s because you think that they should behave differently than what you’re getting from them. And if you think they should behave differently, then you’re holding them accountable to something that they never signed up for. So you’ve got to identify these “rules” that you’re holding people to.

The second thing that you want to look at is what’s triggering you. Why are you allowing the drunk monkey in you head to run the show? When I get triggered, I take a deep breath, and I say, “What’s triggering me right now? Am I feeling like I’m going to lose something? Do I feel like I’m going to somehow be embarrassed? Is there something making me feel like I’m going to get hurt in the future?” You need to think about these things because none of those things are true. You’re not going to be embarrassed by other people’s behavior. Now, you might allow yourself to be in a situation where you say, “That person shouldn’t behave like that, and it’s affecting me,” but it’s only because you’re allowing yourself to do that. It’s not the truth. When they behave however they behave, it doesn’t reflect on you, per se. And if, in some way, it cast a shadow on you, through your communication you can dissolve it and you can create a new way for people to see you.

So, ultimately, you’ve got to look at what standards you are holding people accountable to and what is it exactly that you’re reacting to. And if you can see those two things, wow, you can let it go very, very quickly.

Happiness is For Stupid People

I don’t think this is going to be very politically correct, but I’d like to point out that happiness is really for stupid people.  Because those who over think things, can’t be happy.  Thinking, in general, doesn’t lead to happiness.  Ultimately, happiness is a function of no thought, no mind.  When no mind is there, then you are happy.  It is only the mind that gobbles up your happiness, like Pac-Man.  It’s always thinking about this and what, “What about this? What’s going to happen with that?”, etc.

Happiness, my friends, is for those who are committed to moving beyond the rational and moving into the experiential.  I’d like to invite you there.  It’s pretty amazing.

Rob Kaye Interview

Today I’m sharing another great interview with someone that I think you should know! Rob Kaye is an actor and life coach mainly focusing on voiceover work and coaching people in their personal and business life.  He recently published a spoken word life coaching album called YOU ARE THE HERO: Coaching and Affirmations.  He calls it your portable coach for the mind, body and soul! Rob is all about helping people relax and be inspired! You can find Rob Kaye on his web site http://www.robkaye.com/

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Your Happiness Changes the World

Something that I want you to notice is that nobody else is really ever changing. What is changing is your perspective or point of view. So many of my friends who are engaged in the Inspired Action Weekly program are radically changing their point of view, and they’re becoming so much happier, so much more attractive, so much more productive.

One of the things that we do in the Inspired Action Weekly is we report once a week on what’s going on. So many of the reports are, “My relationship with my spouse is so much better. She’s changed. He’s changed. My kids, they’re becoming these amazing people.” And I keep sending back replies, “No, they’re not. They were always this way. It’s you changing your perspective. You’re becoming more accepting, more appreciative, more honoring.”

When you’re happy, when you’re satisfied, when you’re fulfilled, when you’re lit up, when you’re excited about life, everyone around you seems better. But they’re not. They’ve always been this way. It’s just that, when you’re down, glum and bummed out, everyone around you seems the same way. The world is a reflection of you. It’s mirroring your attitude, your ideas, your thoughts back to you. You see yourself in others.

Jim Donovan Interview

I’m bringing you another inspiring interview with someone that I think you should know! Jim Donovan is known as “The original feel good guy,” due to his ability to bring out the best in people. After facing his own “demons” and overcoming impossible odds, he is able to see the potential in others even when they themselves cannot. Jim delivers a message of hope and possibility to everyone he comes in contact with. As a highly respected speaker and author, he has spoken to businesses, trade groups, high schools, government employees, colleges and many others. Find Jim Donovan on his web site http://www.jimdonovan.com

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