Just Say Yes

Today I’ve got a Perfect Game update for you. I don’t know if you play the Perfect Game or not, but it’s something that I promote as a way of being in the flow and letting amazing and extraordinary opportunities come to you.

The way you play is simple. Whatever is offered, you take it. Whatever is suggested, you do it. Whatever happens, you declare it perfect. A lot of people get freaky about that. “Whatever’s offered? Matthew, what if people offer you drugs?” Come on, you’ve got to use discernment here, okay?

Usually someone is offering you things because you’ve been talking and they see that there’s some connection and they’re hooking you up. People suggest things because of what you’ve been saying. I’m not talking about people trying to sell you something, because that isn’t a suggestion.

So whatever is offered, you take it. Whatever is suggested, you do it. Whatever happens, you laugh and you declare it perfect. Open yourself up and say yes.

I look for sort of random, unusual opportunities or things that just come up. A buddy of mine, Phil Tyrone, I think you know him from, his website is 720CreditScore.com. Good friend of mine, known him for a long time, coached with me and he and I have become buddies since.

Phil calls me up out of the blue and says, “A good friend of mine is coming into town. He’s going to a LA Kings game, and he invited me to come, but I couldn’t go.” And he said, “Do you want to go to the Kings game? They’re going to have dinner beforehand. You can meet and hang out.” and I said, “Okay, cool.”

So I just say yes. It was an unusual opportunity, and I said yes. I have no agenda. So, I come walking into this room. We’re meeting in a restaurant beforehand, and I’m overwhelmed. You know, there’s about 19 people at this table. And it’s not just 19 normal people, it’s 19 of the movers and the shakers in my industry. So I’m thinking, “Whoa, wow!”. I sit down and I immediately start connecting with people. I’m asking about them and what they’re up to and what are their goals, dreams and where are they going and what are they doing, etc.

I connect with this one man in particular named Adam. Adam had just finished making a movie, and I was like, “Oh my god, how amazing.” So I’m just finding about this and immediately he’s reciprocating and wants to find out what I’m doing. Well, I’m in the middle of a little side project that I’m doing, is I’m creating a movie codenamed What the Floyd, that is about this 42-year-old man who is having a major crisis and breakdown in his life. And he gets in a car accident and he’s killed. And he has a near death experience and comes back and sees his life in a whole new way. And the whole thing is told with songs that I’m writing with my buddy David Keesee.

So I’m immediately intrigued by the fact that he just finished a film. He did it totally independent. He did it the way that I wanted to do my film. We got to talking, and he says, “Oh my god, I can help.” I was contributing to him, but then he turned around and started contributing to me. I went from confidence level two, that I was going to be able to do this movie the way that I wanted to do it, to now confidence level nine just in a moment!

I was not really out there in the world seeking out people who were going to help me with this. It just fell into my lap. It’s been a side project, background intention. I’ve been writing the songs and things like that, but not really focusing on how we’re going to actually do the production. But it’s an intention. It’s still there. It’s written down that I want to do that.

So the Perfect Game led me straight to it. And the Perfect Game will lead you straight to the things that you want as well. I recommend that whatever’s offered, you take it; whatever’s suggested, you do it; and whatever happens, you laugh and you declare it perfect. Remember to use discernment.

Happiness is Not a Choice

Happiness is not a choice, it’s a skill. Recently, I read an article that said that happiness is a choice, and I completely disagree. When you’re unhappy, it’s a reaction. The way I see it, happiness is not a choice, it’s a conditioned response. Unhappiness is not a choice either, it’s a conditioned response. You need to start to see that you’re reacting to things, and that reaction is either happiness or something else.

If you don’t acknowledge your conditioning, then happiness will not be your response to many, things. So the question is, how do you begin to condition yourself to make happiness your response? I think the easiest way to do that is to practice asking yourself questions that will get you back to a place that you want to be. I like to ask these questions: “How am I creating this? What good can come of this situation? What would be a more effective response? What do I want?”

See, when I ask questions like that, it pulls me back to what I’m doing rather than me reacting to what’s out there in the world. And I say happiness is not a choice. It’s a skill and you have to practice it.

Other People Do Not Cause Your Suffering

There are no jerks in the world until you show up. Do you get that? People aren’t anything until you label them and give your opinion about what they are. What we don’t like in people is what we’re unwilling to accept about ourselves.

So every time I work with someone, and they start to talk like, “Well, I don’t like this, and I don’t like that. He’s a jerk…” I ask them to start to examine themselves – who they are. Who is the person that is making the complaints? We find out that the person making the complaints actually has those same complaints, in some way, about themselves.

It’s usually an issue about themselves, but they’re unwilling to admit it. There are no jerks in the world until you show up. You’re the one that declares them a jerk, and you can declare them anything you want. Your resistance is what causes you to suffer, and your suffering is caused, ultimately, by your opinion. So why not change your opinion so that you can feel good? You change your opinion, you change your life.

Different Does Not Equal Dangerous

Stop protecting yourself from people who aren’t attacking you. Nobody is attacking you. People are just doing what they’re doing. They’re just doing the best they can. If there is someone yelling and screaming at you, it’s because, in some way, you have threatened them. Your existence has threatened their existence.

Stop believing that when people act differently than you, that it’s a threat. Remember, everyone was raised by different family groups, different cultures. And different does not equal dangerous! If you listen to the drunk monkey in your head, you will see that the drunk monkey actually believes that different is dangerous. You must let this go because the truth of the matter is everybody is just doing the best they can in the moment.

Be in a Perpetual State of Now

You are in a perpetual state of now. And I know that a lot of people think “but what does it mean exactly?” Well, it basically means that the drunk monkey in your head is constantly fantasizing about what’s coming up in the future. It’s obsessed with controlling the next minute, the next second, the next hour, the next day, the next year. And I want you to notice that there’s not much the drunk monkey can do about it.

The wisest thing to do is to ignore it and to say, “You know what, monkey, what is going to happen will be perfect. I have things I am committed to. I’m not being irresponsible. I do set goals and have objectives. But obsessing and going over and over and over it in my head right now really is not doing us any good.”

Another thing that the drunk monkey does that keeps you out of the present moment is it’s constantly thinking about the past. It’s regretting. It’s trying to re-write your past to make you look more favorable and it’s saying, “Well, that guy was wrong and he shouldn’t have been like that and that was really stupid and blah blah blah!” Just notice that you have so little control over this babbling and rambling in your head and that lack of control ultimately kills your bliss.

What you want to learn to do is ignore it. Try to constantly catch it and just say, “Shut up, monkey, I’m not interested.” Be right here, right now in the present moment. It’s very, very powerful. Lots of energy. Lots of joy. Lots of ecstasy available and waiting for you. But you have to learn to see or recognize the rambling in your head as completely irrelevant and then stop listening. And in that moment, you’ll be higher than you’ve ever been.

Do I Need to be a Monk to Achieve Ridiculous Bliss?

To be in a state of ridiculous bliss, do I do a day of silence or can I just be in the world? Clients have said to me “I mean, my life is chaotic, Matthew. How do I get into ridiculous bliss? Do I have to like escape and be a monk and, you know, go mediate in a cave?”

No, no, no, no, no. Now, is it effective for you to take time for yourself to think and to be introspective? Yes, of course. That’s very effective. And I meditate every single day, and I highly recommend that you meditate every single day. But I find it equally valuable to fully engage the world, to just play full out and then use my techniques of aligning, accepting, allowing, and honoring as tools to bring ridiculous bliss into every aspect of my life.

You can do the exact same thing. So do you do a day of silence or do you engage the world full blast? I say you try both.

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