Anger is Not a Choice

istock_000001624654smallMost powerful people mistakenly believe that anger is a choice.  With further examination and attention to the matter you will see that the body reacts to potential threats automatically.  To control the answer and turn it into something positive you need to do the following:

a.  Notice the body reacting negatively.  Most positive people avoid negative feelings.  A more powerful thing to do is to feel them completely to understand the feeling.  Rather than resisting it or denying it, feel it fully from a detached observer point of view.

b.  Step back and see the whole situation.  See the upsetting situation from all points of view and notice that the anger, fear etc dissipates quickly.

In the anger is automatic.  Happiness, peace, joy and all the other positive emotions are chosen.

The Source of Unhappiness

Would you like to feel happy?  Do you want to have more peace of mind?  Then give up your opinion.

How you see the world makes no difference to anyone else.  Everyone sees the world differently.  Yet, opinions are the source of suffering and negativity.  All negativity in your life can be sourced back to an opinion that you hold.

Here is a quote from one of my all time favorite books:

“With humility comes the willingness to stop trying to control or change other people or life situations or events ostensibly ‘for their own good’.  To be a committed spiritual seeker, it is necessary to relinquish the desire to be ‘right’ or of imaginary value to society.  In fact, nobody’s ego or belief systems are of any value to society at all.  The world is neither good nor bad nor defective, nor is it in need of help or modification because its appearance is only a projection of one’s own mind.  No such world exists.”  Dr. David Hawkins, Eye of the I, page 108

If you want to learn how to let go of all the crap in your head that stops you from living a life of happiness and peace then join me Wednesday June 17th for my next complementary webinar called Turn Your Life Around Now!  Register Here

Law of Attraction Explained

attractionThere are two ways you can approach life.  You can approach life as if you are at the effect of things or like you are the cause of things.  Both are true.  The way you focus  creates your reality.  It’s clear that you are being the cause of your life because you are reading this blog about self improvement. The only question is, “Are aware of what you are causing?”

In order to manifest a new lover, the perfect job, that next big opportunity or millions of dollars…you have to get present to your ability to magnetize what you want.  You have to see it, realize it, know it and trust it.  That’s why I host classes to create a structure for seeing your power in action.  That way you can trust it.  Because of the exposure people receive in my classes,  they are never the same again.

The Law of Attraction is operating in the background of your life at all times.  It is similar to gravity, which is so much a part of your life that you are almost never present to it.  Yet, whether you are present to gravity or not does not stop it from affecting your existence.  By getting present to the effect of gravity, we are able to use it to our advantage.  Airplanes, rockets, kites and cars all use gravity as a part of their operation.  In order to learn to fly, airplane designers had to get present to the invisible forces that pull objects back to the ground.  Rocket designers realized they needed to go 17k miles per hour to pull away from the Earth’s gravitational field. If you only go 16k miles per hour, you won’t make it.

Similarly, in order to manifest your desires and outcomes, you must get present to those unseen forces that orchestrate the activities of the universe in the background of your life.  The Law of Attraction: You attract into your life what ever you give your energy, focus and attention to, whether you want it or not.  Like gravity, the Law of Attraction has no opinion or discernment.  In other words the Law of Attraction does not care what you attract.

You are free to create whatever you want.  The problem is that most people have been conditioned to believe they have no control over their lives and therefore keep attracting what they don’t want by focusing on it.  The Law of Attraction is always affecting you, whether you believe in it or not.  If you said to yourself “That’s it!  I give up on gravity!”  would you float away?  No.  Gravity is there whether you believe in gravity or not.

Even more important is the fact that we have named the unseen force gravity.  Is it really “gravity”?  No.  That’s just what we named something we observed.  It’s not true or false or right or wrong, it’s just something that occurs predictably.  By naming it, we make it useful to us.  So it is with the Law of Attraction.  By naming it, we make it useful.  As a child, you didn’t think about gravity.  Gravity taught its properties to you through demonstration, right?  Learning to walk was learning about gravity.  Gravity is invisible, and yet it’s obvious and measurable.  Gravity was revealed to us by an apple dropping.

The Law of Attraction is far more subtle yet no less real.  Our senses can easily identify the effects of gravity because it’s instant.  Yet, the effects of the Law of Attraction are much harder to spot.  Not because the principle doesn’t hold true, but because of the duration of time it takes for it affect us.  Some of your desires manifest instantly, others take a life time.  It depends on how attached you are to the results.  The more attached you are, the longer it takes. The less attached you are, the shorter amount of time it takes.  Just like it was hard for us to see that the world was round when it appeared flat, the Law of Attraction is hard to see because it usually happens over long periods of time and is very subtle… But eventually you are living exactly what you had thought about, in one way or another.

I’ve been experimenting with this concept since 1989.  Through my tracking I have seen that approximately 70% of my dreams have materialized in one way or the other.  Like the Law of Gravity, the Law of Attraction becomes a powerful tool when you align yourself with its effects.  Fight against gravity and you’ll die.  Fight against the Law of Attraction and you’ll suffer.  Work with gravity and you can soar…Work with attraction and you can live a totally fulfilling and satisfying life.

Thinking is manifesting.  Thinking is setting forth intentions and delegations.  You get what you think about whether you want it or not.  The Law of Attraction is absolute.  Your life is the sum total of what you have been thinking about.

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Faust on Inspiration and The Drunk Monkey

istock_000005539091mediumThis is a quote I saw on the back of a wine bottle the other night and thought it was worth commenting on.

“If feelings fail you vain will be your course. And idle what you plan unless your art springs from the soul with elemental force.”

This is my interpretation. “If feelings fail you vain will be your course.”  When you are not connected to your feelings, your heart, you are connected to your mind, The Drunk Monkey.  The Drunk Monkey is all about getting ahead, manipulating and strategizing to stay alive.  This is self-centered, vain behavior.

“And idle what you plan unless your art springs from your soul with elemental force.”  Stop taking action until you are inspired.  If you take actions based on The Drunk Monkey’s goals to dominate, get ahead, stay alive, be important etc, then you will win the battle but lose the war.  You can achieve your goals but you will be left feeling empty.  Wait to be pulled forward by your inspiration and your goals and dreams will happen in magical ways and leave you feeling satisfied and complete.

Happiness and Success in Tough Times (8 Videos)

In January 2007 I put on an event in Sedona AZ.  It was called Prosperity Through Meditation.  Steven Sadleir led the meditations, Dr. David Hawkins inspired us to live a more spiritual life and I supported the group with practical techniques to get into a flow state with life.  These videos are the 8 steps I presented to get into the flow and stay there.

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