“This Shouldn’t Be!”

Nobody escapes this fatal mistake of perception.  Each of us arrogantly believes that we are the rulers of the universe.  Each of us secretly believes that we are right about life.  We actually have the audacity to believe that what we think is right and what the world is doing is wrong.

This prevailing mindset is born of ignorance.  It is ignorant to believe that you know how people should be or how life should be.  Life is lifing along… doing what it’s doing… regardless of your opinion about it.  Yet, The Drunk Monkey in your head has an opinion about everything… including things it knows nothing about.

When you say, “This shouldn’t be!” you resist what “is” as if your resistance will actually make a difference.  It never does.  It only makes you feel bad.  Negativity is the resistance you have to how life actually is.  If you want less negativity in life and more happiness, then you must let life be exactly the way that it is… and then make new decisions from there.  Let life and people be exactly as they are, then move forward from there.

The Drunk Monkey believes that it’s job is to be the dictator of the planet and tell everyone what to do.  This only leads to suffereing.  No one cares about what you think or how you see the world.  Haven’t you noticed that by now?

The antidote is to simply be honest and admit, “This must be perfect.  It isn’t what I prefer but no one cares about my preferences but me.  So how do I turn this situation into something positive for me.”  This takes mental conditioning.  You must be surrounded by people who are also being honest and declaring that the world is perfect and the only thing that makes it imperfect is their opinion.  You must keep listening to lectures about the subject, reading books and taking classes.

Eventually an powerful commitment to declaring the world is perfect exactly as it is will catapult you into an infinite space of peace, flow and happiness.  From there, you will become more productive and more powerful then you have ever been in your life.  Isn’t that cool?  Try it today.

Matthew Ferry’s Happiness and Success Mastermind

Over the last 3 years I’ve stumbled upon very powerful spiritual principles that have a profound impact on happiness and success.

I’ve been sharing these secrets with my private coaching clients and now I’m ready to share them with a small group of very special people.

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Those formulas certainly have their momentary hit, but long-term happiness is really just a skill. It’s a shift in the way that you’re thinking about yourself and about your circumstances in life. Nothing needs to change to make you happy.

So here are three actions that you can take that will make you happy. The first action is called devotion. What exactly does devotion mean? It’s a way of being. It’s about being in the moment, and doing what you’re doing in that moment to the very best of your ability. When your operating from that standpoint of really focusing in and doing your best, it will create an extreme sense of happiness for you. If you’re doing the dishes, walking the dog, playing with the kids, hanging out with your spouse, with your friends, whatever it is that you’re doing, focus on that and do your best. You’ll be surprised how much happiness you feel in that moment.

The second is to take actions of service. This is about taking your attention out of your own head. Help others, contribute, make a difference, support something. Anytime that you are able take your focus off of you and out of your head, and move it out there into the world, you will experience a sudden rise in happiness. In other words, consider the following. Your unhappiness is just a self-centered focus. So, by getting your focus out there and serving others, your happiness is going to go through the roof.

The last action to take is appreciation. Look at things in a new way, find what you like about people, find what you like about situations, and find things you like about yourself. This is really the anti-mind. The mind, all that talking in your head, is not focused on what’s right, what’s working, what you like, and what you’re happy about. It’s not focused on that. It’s a survival mechanism, so its job is to look for what doesn’t work and then focus on those things. And that, of course, makes you unhappy. So, work to appreciate your situation, the people around you, and yourself, and your happiness will grow exponentially.

See, ultimately, everything that you want comes to you naturally, when you’re in complete alignment and focus. And I have seen that getting yourself to a place where you are serving others, that is the place in which you get into total alignment with who you are.

I request that today you give up that need to produce results for the giving that you’re doing. A lot of people who are contributing, for example, to charities, they’re doing it in an unconscious attempt to purchase salvation. They’re thinking “I want to do this good to try to erase some of the bad doing that I’ve done in the past.” Give that up and just give to give.

On top of that, I want you to really focus on giving up your agenda, when you’re out there in the world. Let’s say you’re networking and you meet someone who is amazing. You just want to do things for them, so that you can, ultimately, bind them into doing things for you. Give that up and just do things for people, support, contribute and make a difference, because it makes you feel great. And ultimately trust that, when you feel great and you’re focused on others, what you want comes to you naturally.

Happiness, my friends, is for those who are committed to moving beyond the rational and moving into the experiential.  I’d like to invite you there.  It’s pretty amazing.

One of the things that we do in the Inspired Action Weekly is we report once a week on what’s going on. So many of the reports are, “My relationship with my spouse is so much better. She’s changed. He’s changed. My kids, they’re becoming these amazing people.” And I keep sending back replies, “No, they’re not. They were always this way. It’s you changing your perspective. You’re becoming more accepting, more appreciative, more honoring.”

When you’re happy, when you’re satisfied, when you’re fulfilled, when you’re lit up, when you’re excited about life, everyone around you seems better. But they’re not. They’ve always been this way. It’s just that, when you’re down, glum and bummed out, everyone around you seems the same way. The world is a reflection of you. It’s mirroring your attitude, your ideas, your thoughts back to you. You see yourself in others.

The truth is that no matter how much surgery you get, how many treatments you get, your body is going to deteriorate and your beauty is going to wane. There is a short period in which we all experience that sort of youthful beauty. Many of you get stuck in the place where the drunk money says, “Well, you know, that is my value.”

If you’re thinking “I am happy when I am beautiful, and I am not happy when I am not beautiful.” you’re screwed! That’s because there’s going to be a tremendous amount of your life in which the drunk monkey in your head is going to declare, “You are no longer the beautiful creature that you were before.”

You’re going to have to take on tactics that bring you happiness and fulfillment now without having some external event be in a particular way. In other words, if your circumstances have to be a certain way in order for you to be happy, then you’re in trouble. There’s only one thing we can count on, and that is change.

Everything is going to change. Everything is shifting, so the more valuable thing to do is to take on learning how to be happy now.