Is Happiness a Disease?

Originally posted August 24, 2010

Well, it turns out that happiness and sadness both spread like diseases. In a study done by Harvard University and MIT, a mathematical model was put to a study to see if happiness and sadness, if your emotional state infects other people. Guess what? It does.

Over a several-year period, they realized that by applying a traditional, infectious disease simulation to the data they had collected on 1,880 test subjects, the sadness would spread throughout the people who were exposed to it. The happy would spread throughout the people who were affected by it.

I remember my son saying to us at dinner the other day, “It is so weird Dad. When I am here at your house, my complaints disappear so quickly. I am able to maintain my happiness and my joy so much more easily than when I am over at Mom’s.” It just confirmed for me that one person’s commitment to happiness can massively and dramatically affect everyone else in your life.

So what are you committed to? Are you going to spread the disease of the drunk monkey? Or, are you going to spread the disease of your higher self into your life today?

3 Key Words to Radical Happiness

Originally posted May 16, 2010

The key words to radical happiness are totally different than most people believe.  There are three specific causes to unhappiness and three words that lead you back to radical happiness.

3 Causes of Unhappiness

Unhappiness is caused by…

1.  Resiting yourself.

2.  Resiting other people.

3.  Resisting your situation.

When you feel negative it is because you are resisting something.  Negativity is the resistance you have to how life actually is.

3 Key Words to Radical Happiness

In order to get out of negativity you must use these three words:

1.  Awareness – if you don’t see The Drunk Monkey in your head resisting, then you will simply be in reaction and not in control of your emotional state.

2.  Acceptance – you are not the ruler of the universe (as much as The Drunk Monkey would like to believe that you are) and no one cares about your opinion or perspective.  Life is just doing its thing.  People are just trying to live life best they can.  Your opinion about them is the source of your suffering.  Acceptance will set you free and get you back to happiness.  But you must go back to #1 and start to see The Drunk Monkey in action and see it’s motives in order to let them go and get to acceptance.

3.  Appreciation – this is the source of joy itself.  When you are in a state of gratitude and appreciation, life feels good and you return to radical happiness.

How to Be Happy Instantly

There is one phrase that makes you unhappy.  Give up saying this phrase and you will be happy instantly.

“This Shouldn’t Be!”

Nobody escapes this fatal mistake of perception.  Each of us arrogantly believes that we are the rulers of the universe.  Each of us secretly believes that we are right about life.  We actually have the audacity to believe that what we think is right and what the world is doing is wrong.

This prevailing mindset is born of ignorance.  It is ignorant to believe that you know how people should be or how life should be.  Life is lifing along… doing what it’s doing… regardless of your opinion about it.  Yet, The Drunk Monkey in your head has an opinion about everything… including things it knows nothing about.

When you say, “This shouldn’t be!” you resist what “is” as if your resistance will actually make a difference.  It never does.  It only makes you feel bad.  Negativity is the resistance you have to how life actually is.  If you want less negativity in life and more happiness, then you must let life be exactly the way that it is… and then make new decisions from there.  Let life and people be exactly as they are, then move forward from there.

The Drunk Monkey believes that it’s job is to be the dictator of the planet and tell everyone what to do.  This only leads to suffereing.  No one cares about what you think or how you see the world.  Haven’t you noticed that by now?

The antidote is to simply be honest and admit, “This must be perfect.  It isn’t what I prefer but no one cares about my preferences but me.  So how do I turn this situation into something positive for me.”  This takes mental conditioning.  You must be surrounded by people who are also being honest and declaring that the world is perfect and the only thing that makes it imperfect is their opinion.  You must keep listening to lectures about the subject, reading books and taking classes.

Eventually an powerful commitment to declaring the world is perfect exactly as it is will catapult you into an infinite space of peace, flow and happiness.  From there, you will become more productive and more powerful then you have ever been in your life.  Isn’t that cool?  Try it today.

How to Stay Positive In Tough Times

This video contains some simple proven techniques for staying positive in tough times.  Make sure to comment or ask a question of your own that you want me to answer.  And…

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3 Actions That Create Happiness

Over the years, I’ve discovered three actions that can guarantee your happiness. To start off, it’s important for you to know that happiness is a skill that anybody can learn. Most people believe that happiness is some kind of circumference that is outside of yourself. To be happy, many people think that have to own a certain thing, live a certain place, make a certain amount of money, etc. They think, “if this thing happens, then I’ll be happy.” Also, a lot of people think happiness is formula. They need certain events, things, etc to all align in order to be happy. “All I need is the Super Bowl, having a cigar, drinking a drink with a hot girl on my side, man, then I’m happy.”

Those formulas certainly have their momentary hit, but long-term happiness is really just a skill. It’s a shift in the way that you’re thinking about yourself and about your circumstances in life. Nothing needs to change to make you happy.

So here are three actions that you can take that will make you happy. The first action is called devotion. What exactly does devotion mean? It’s a way of being. It’s about being in the moment, and doing what you’re doing in that moment to the very best of your ability. When your operating from that standpoint of really focusing in and doing your best, it will create an extreme sense of happiness for you. If you’re doing the dishes, walking the dog, playing with the kids, hanging out with your spouse, with your friends, whatever it is that you’re doing, focus on that and do your best. You’ll be surprised how much happiness you feel in that moment.

The second is to take actions of service. This is about taking your attention out of your own head. Help others, contribute, make a difference, support something. Anytime that you are able take your focus off of you and out of your head, and move it out there into the world, you will experience a sudden rise in happiness. In other words, consider the following. Your unhappiness is just a self-centered focus. So, by getting your focus out there and serving others, your happiness is going to go through the roof.

The last action to take is appreciation. Look at things in a new way, find what you like about people, find what you like about situations, and find things you like about yourself. This is really the anti-mind. The mind, all that talking in your head, is not focused on what’s right, what’s working, what you like, and what you’re happy about. It’s not focused on that. It’s a survival mechanism, so its job is to look for what doesn’t work and then focus on those things. And that, of course, makes you unhappy. So, work to appreciate your situation, the people around you, and yourself, and your happiness will grow exponentially.

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