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August 21, 2009 – 3:22 pm
If life went exactly as planned, you wouldn’t learn anything. If life didn’t push against you, you wouldn’t grow or evolve. The contrast is what you need to know how to create the vision in your head.
What gets in the way is our opinion. “This shouldn’t be!” the Drunk Monkey screams. But if you look at the history of your life you will see that all great obstacles were necessary to get you where you are today. Destruction is the beginning of creation and creation is the beginning of destruction. When you create, you push up against the status quo and that creates opposition.
If you are feeling opposition to your goals, then you are on your way.
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August 16, 2009 – 12:13 pm
Most powerful people mistakenly believe that anger is a choice. With further examination and attention to the matter you will see that the body reacts to potential threats automatically. To control the answer and turn it into something positive you need to do the following:
a. Notice the body reacting negatively. Most positive people avoid negative feelings. A more powerful thing to do is to feel them completely to understand the feeling. Rather than resisting it or denying it, feel it fully from a detached observer point of view.
b. Step back and see the whole situation. See the upsetting situation from all points of view and notice that the anger, fear etc dissipates quickly.
In the anger is automatic. Happiness, peace, joy and all the other positive emotions are chosen.
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August 12, 2009 – 10:58 am
Sometimes you have to take a stand for what you believe in. Sometimes the entire structure of your life is fighting against your deepest desire. These moments of extreme resistance, breakdown and depression are actually transition points from one type of living to the next.
New life come with a hefty price. It is destructive. Your old life will fight back, push you down and tell you that you can’t have what you want.
In those moments you must learn to tame The Drunk Monkey and take a stand for what you believe is possible. It’s not easy, it’s not effortless and it’s not enjoyable. It’s scary and hard. But the reward of your new life is worth the temporary pain and destruction. So go for it.
Are you willing to take a stand for the life you want?
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August 4, 2009 – 9:57 am
It’s a classic metaphor. When you are pointing the finger at someone else, there are three fingers pointing back at you. Blame is destructive. If you are committed to living a happy and productive life, then you must give up blaming others for anything that happens. Are there instances where other people are at fault? Yes. Does that make a difference in your happiness and success? No. In order for you to experience happiness and success you must move in the direction being the creator of your experience.
Happiness and success occur when you are totally responsible for your life in every way. Meaning, no one and nothing out there in the world have dominion over you.
Do you have control over the world? Not always. But do you have control over your experience of the world? Yes. How you choose to view a situation determines your actions which influences the results. When you take the blame for everything that occurs in your life, when you declare yourself responsible for the experience you are having, you can turn lemons into lemonade.
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July 31, 2009 – 9:06 am
One of my clients is paralyzed with doubt and fear. He says “I wish I knew what I wanted. I wish I didn’t feel so paralyzed. Every decision is hard for me. Why can’t my life be easy like other people?”
The Drunk Monkey strikes again. Fear and doubt are important mechanisms of The Drunk Monkey (your mind). Fear and doubt are guiding forces away from potential danger. The problem for most people, including my client, is that life is not dangerous at all. Not knowing what to do with your life is not dangerous. Therefore when you are in fear and doubt just notice how you are hallucinating that something bad is going to happen and you are avoiding that illusion.
The second part of my client’s statement is “Why can’t my life be easy like other people?”. Again, this is a misperception. After coaching more than 8300 people to achieve happiness and success I can tell you with certainty that lives look easy on the outside but everyone’s monkey makes it difficult on the inside.
Life isn’t hard. Your resistance to what life is makes it hard. If you will pause and see The Drunk Monkey madness in your head for what it is, then you will be able to let it go and move forward again.
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July 13, 2009 – 9:21 am
Yesterday I posted a thought about how positive people rarely deal with their negativity because they feel it will make them negative. I proposed that the problem with not dealing with the negativity that lurks below the surface is that it seeps out of you in ways that others can sense. You end up becoming a rose garden with a sewer underneath. I had some great comments on various social sites that I wanted to address.
Negativity is neutralized by becoming aware of its source. I define negativity as the resistance you have to what is so. Life is just lifing along and then you are resisting what ever it is doing. The past is simply a figment of your imagination that you are now resisting. The future is a hallucination you are having that you are resisting. People are just doing whatever they are doing and you are reacting to your opinion of what they are doing. It’s not what they are doing that bothers you, it is your opinion about what they are doing that is bothering you.
In a nutshell, your opinion is the source of your negativity. And where does this opinion come from? Your infinite wisdom? NO! The Drunk Monkey in your head!!!! All hail the great and wise Drunk Monkey. You have been conditioned like a dog to think that “this is the right way to pee! That is the right way to dress! Those are the right behaviors!” But all of that is just your parents or whoever raised you doing their best to get you ready for life. What you believe about the world is not the truth. What you believe is just conditioning. Today, just roll with life and watch negativity dissipate before your eyes.
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