Happiness and Success in Tough Times (8 Videos)

Dated: date April 27, 2009 – 11:13 am

In January 2007 I put on an event in Sedona AZ.  It was called Prosperity Through Meditation.  Steven Sadleir led the meditations, Dr. David Hawkins inspired us to live a more spiritual life and I supported the group with practical techniques to get into a flow state with life.  These videos are the 8 steps I presented to get into the flow and stay there.

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I spill my guts on this interview

Dated: date March 26, 2009 – 3:18 pm
Radio Interview

Radio Interview

Nellie Jacobs does a radio show Igniting Imagination on Blog Talk Radio.  She interviews creative types and digs out their thought processes.  Very in depth.  If you need some inspiration today, take the time to listen to this  show.  Plus, she plays a couple segments of songs that I’ve written in the past (fun).

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How do I keep my emotions between the lines

Dated: date February 11, 2009 – 10:26 am

Why do I have such lows?  Here’s a video where I answer the question:

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4 steps to get out of breakdown now!

Dated: date October 17, 2008 – 9:39 am

One of our clients happens to be a new real estate agent.  He is failing miserably.  When I asked him about it, he tried to put on his practiced happy dance.  I didn’t buy it.

I asked him “How would you rate your level of satisfaction with the Real Estate business?”  He said “5″  I laughed.  You see, three minutes before, he had just admitted that he has been totally depressed and not doing anything.  “Totally depressed is a 5?” I fired back.  To which he admitted it was more like a 2.

To be depressed tells me that this very powerful and capable person has accidentally started to resist a negative future that The Drunk Monkey (his mind) has sold him on.  I asked “What are you unwilling to face in your real estate business that has feeling so powerless?” Without hesitation he replied “I’m a failure”.

Here is how I coached him.

1.  What you can accept you can transform.  Write out the worst possible thing that could happen to you if you keep going down this path.  Then come up with 2 to 5 options, if it actually did happen.

2.  Your lack of power is related to your unfulfilled promises to yourself and others.  Make a list of all the promises, commitments, accountability and tasks that you have pending right now.  Then do one of two things.  Either make a new promise and begin to reorganize your life around that promise or call the person you have the promise with and cancel it.  Be sure to give yourself realistic time frames on the promises you are choosing to keep.

3.  Get the Monkey off your back!  Go to www.mfpodcast.com and download the three free visualizations.  Listen to the Accepting Self, Others and Situations visualization for 20 minutes every single day for the next seven days.

4.  Get inspired now!  Go to www.15strategies.com and start my free 15 strategies course.  It is the 15 things my coaches and I do to help someone get out of breakdown.

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The Victim Formula

Dated: date September 2, 2008 – 11:51 pm

The victim formula is at the heart of all failure.  Failure being the moment YOU declare that your dream is impossible and give up.  The victim formula leads to resignation and resignation will stop you dead in your tracks.

So, what is the victim formula?

Some day, when I, then I will…

“Some day, when I have the money, then I will take my family on a vacation and we will all connect and celebrate our life together.”

“Some day, when I get my degree, then I will prove to the world that I’m as good as the next person.”

“Some day, when my kids go off to school, I will finally start my creative project.”

“Some day, when I start my own business, then I will set my own schedule and I’ll make the rules.”

“Some day, when I retire, then I’ll do whatever I want, whenever I want.”

The question I usually ask my client is, “And in the mean time?”

Their answers range from…
“In the mean time, I’ve got to work 12 hours a day to get the money to go on vacation.”
“In the mean time, I’ve got to keep showing the world that I have value.”
“In the mean time, I have to put my needs on the back burner and raise my kids.”

Basically what everyone says is, “In the mean time I will tough it out and suffer!”  Another way of saying that, “In the mean time I will be a victim of my circumstances and not live my dream now.  I have to wait for some day.”

I have coached so many people who were stuck in this paradigm.  “Some day Matthew!  Some day I’m going to be successful and then I’m going to really live!”

But some day never comes.  With each new accomplishment, the bar gets raised.  With each new acquisition, the thirst for more stuff increases.  Have you ever noticed that the moment you get something new, you are quickly on to the next thing?  How long before the excitement about a new car wears off?

Some day never comes.

If you allow yourself to live within this mindset, you will eventually burn out, get resigned and mistakenly believe that dreams never come true.

What is your someday?  Leave your comments below.

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