What To Do When Things Don’t Manifest

Originally posted May 14, 2010

I’m sitting in row 20 seat E.  That’s the middle seat at the back of the plane.  This morning, not knowing what seat my assistant had booked me for this trip I wrote in my intentions, rather spontaneously, “I am so thankful to the universe for providing me with first class seats on the way up and back to Seattle this week… or something better!”

This isn’t normally something I spend too much time manifesting as I practice being in a state of Ridiculous Bliss where ever I am, regardless of the circumstances.  But I know what my clients would say, “Where is your manifesting now, Mr. Smarty Pants?”  The answer is easy and complex.

The easy answer is that something better is on its way and at this very moment I have no idea what it is.  The complex answer is that this situation is apparently better for all.  Now that I say it, I can see that I am writing about this experience, which is a contribution to the global understanding of The Law of Attraction and the power to manifest.  It’s also giving me a a chance to be in a state of perfection as I’m squished into my seat, elbows tucked tightly into my sides computer screen tilted slightly down so that I can barely see it because the person in front of me has their seat all the way back.

The complex answer is that I cannot possibly understand the state of perfection that I’m in.  The Drunk Monkey in my head has only my five senses to bring in information to which it correlates its past experiences and comes up with a hypothesis, a hallucination about what this moment is and what it will be.  The truth is much broader and more expansive then I could ever possibly imagine.  The Drunk Monkey can only speculate that because its expectations have been broken and that the seat is less comfortable then other seating arrangements, that something must be wrong and NOW is not good.

If I allow The Drunk Monkey to run the show I don’t feel good.  Instead, I  meditate, focus on what I’m grateful for, appreciate the design of the plane, appreciate the backs of the heads that I can see, notice how interesting the two very “engrossed in their own stuff” people are to my left and right.  I will find the joy in this moment via the most powerful state I know… Appreciation.  When I stay committed to being in a good place no matter what the circumstances are, everything turns out better than The Drunk Monkey could have imagined.

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Why Law of Attraction Does Not Work

A lot of people ask me why the law of attraction doesn’t work for them. I’ve investigated this a lot, not only in my own personal life with all of my own experimentation, but I’ve also investigated it with thousands and thousands of other coaching clients, where I’m working with them one on one, and they’re saying, “Matthew, why is it that I want this, but I keep getting that?”

What they want is usually success, and what they keep getting is failure. And what it comes down to is probably the most breakthrough ideas that I’ve come across.

It’s called the fundamental misperception. So consider this. Years ago, you accepted false conclusions as correct. You began to live your life as if those warped ideas about your potential were true. And you completely killed off the experiment called life and you started to live within a hallucinated set of boundaries, boundaries that don’t even exist.

Now what happens is you will only manifest and create within those boundaries, and so your goals and dreams are outside of the boundary. But you keep coming up against this lid, this invisible barrier, and the invisible barrier is a foundational belief that you have about yourself that is not true. Fundamental misperception.

For example, no matter how smart you get, you feel stupid. Other people have this feeling like they’re ugly, so they try to be glamorous and look good and show the world how beautiful and amazing and wonderful they are. Yet no matter how much stuff they have, no matter how much they do with themselves, they still feel ugly. These are the people who get addicted to doing plastic surgery and getting a new wardrobe and shopping and all of that.

I want to help you get away from this and avoid it. By being aware of this, you become flexible. The flexibility reveals new options, and those options give you power. The power to create your own life.

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Law of Attraction and Sick Kids

I answered this on Yahoo Answers and I thought you might enjoy my thoughts.

“A friend recently introduced me to The Secret: Law of Attraction, a concept I found extremely interesting. Upon further research, I found that it is strongly linked with the new thought movement. Both of these concepts believe that everything in our lives is attracted to us via our thoughts, so illness comes from negative thoughts. How can this be applied to, for example, a 6-year-old boy with Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy, or a very ill baby, as they aren’t going to have negative thoughts enough to bring on such illness? I just don’t understand how this works, and when asking my friend, who is a complete believer in this, she didn’t know the answer.”

My Answer:
New thought is not a theory of everything.  People are born with certain propensities toward health, well-being, attitude etc.  You will find those who are attracted to New Thought are searching for meaning.  There are just some things we don’t understand.

Why a child is born with a life threatening or debilitating illness is a mystery.  That being said, the child’s life is still being dramatically influenced by his or her thoughts and the thoughts of others.  An infant is positively influenced by the loving and secure feelings of those around it.

If the 6-year-old child, by the grace of God or some higher power, is able to step back and feel blessed for being alive as long as he or she has been, then a transformation will occur in the child’s experience.  Life will suddenly seem “better”.  Though nothing will have changed.  This might influence the child’s health condition in a positive way, and it might not.  It is still a mystery as to why some people miraculously heal while others don’t.  One thing is for certain.  If the child begins to feel gratitude for the time he or she has had here on Earth, then the experience of the illness will change.  The child will no longer feel like a victim and that will improve the child’s condition dramatically.  Maybe not physically, but emotionally.  There are many studies that demonstrate how a persons thoughts can improve their physical condition.  Many survivors of life threatening illnesses attest to positive thoughts as an integral part of their healing process.

Rather than looking for evidence that proves New Thought to be inaccurate, spend some time investigating its’ accuracy in your own life.  Begin small.  Start by visualizing insignificant things that you want to manifest into your experience like a blue butterfly.  Visualize it and then notice how butterflies begin to show up everywhere in your life.  Don’t be attached to seeing an actual butterfly.  Be open to pictures, jewelry, etc.  When you see a butterfly, then pick something else.  Notice that what you focus on appears in your life.  Just keep visualizing small insignificant things until you appear.  This will build your belief that what you think about will show up.  With practice you can get bigger and bigger.  Many people attest to this phenomenon but it must be experienced personally to really get it.

Life Coach Matthew Ferry Life Coaching website http://www.matthewferry.com

If you want to watch some videos I’ve done on the process go here:  http://tinyurl.com/269smhk

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