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When you’re attached, things don’t really work very well. People say, “Well, you need to detach.” Right? Well, what does that mean exactly? It means that you come to grips with the outcomes of your goals and dreams being okay if they fail or if they succeed, or anywhere in between. You detach. I have a client, for example, who is in the middle of building an enormous division inside of a very big bank. And he had a key meeting today. And in this meeting, if the person said, “Yes,” then all of his dreams – everything that he’s been working on, comes into fruition in one meeting.

So, you can imagine that, initially, he was like, “Oh my god, is it going to work and what am I going to do?” And all that – and the drunk monkey in his head. What if? What if? What if? What if? What if? What if? What if? Now, what I had to do was help him to come to grips that his project may not go the way he wants and that his dream may collapse right there. And I had to get him to a place where he could deal with that and accept it, that if it didn’t go he’d be okay.

The moment he got there, he could detach, he could allow the meeting to occur naturally without any manipulation, without any force, without any trying to make people do stuff. And then he could be open to receive exactly what he wanted. Detach. Allow. And receive.