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One of our clients happens to be a new real estate agent.  He is failing miserably.  When I asked him about it, he tried to put on his practiced happy dance.  I didn’t buy it.

I asked him “How would you rate your level of satisfaction with the Real Estate business?”  He said “5″  I laughed.  You see, three minutes before, he had just admitted that he has been totally depressed and not doing anything.  “Totally depressed is a 5?” I fired back.  To which he admitted it was more like a 2.

To be depressed tells me that this very powerful and capable person has accidentally started to resist a negative future that The Drunk Monkey (his mind) has sold him on.  I asked “What are you unwilling to face in your real estate business that has feeling so powerless?” Without hesitation he replied “I’m a failure”.

Here is how I coached him.

1.  What you can accept you can transform.  Write out the worst possible thing that could happen to you if you keep going down this path.  Then come up with 2 to 5 options, if it actually did happen.

2.  Your lack of power is related to your unfulfilled promises to yourself and others.  Make a list of all the promises, commitments, accountability and tasks that you have pending right now.  Then do one of two things.  Either make a new promise and begin to reorganize your life around that promise or call the person you have the promise with and cancel it.  Be sure to give yourself realistic time frames on the promises you are choosing to keep.

3.  Get the Monkey off your back!  Go to www.mfpodcast.com and download the three free visualizations.  Listen to the Accepting Self, Others and Situations visualization for 20 minutes every single day for the next seven days.

4.  Get inspired now!  Go to www.15strategies.com and start my free 15 strategies course.  It is the 15 things my coaches and I do to help someone get out of breakdown.