Okay, I admit it. I got bored with writing this one two points at a time. I had all 20 and I was just stringing you along. Well, I’m tired of the string so I’m giving you all the rest today 
15. Being too serious.
You are going to die. There is nothing you are going to do about it. Many cultures believe you choose your time of death before you incarnate. Being serious means you are scared. Being scared is an ineffective state.
16. Working from a dis-empowering context.
I have to. I must. I should. I need to. None of these states are ever true. You always have a choice. Most people make their life suck by pretending that they don’t have a choice thereby creating a context for life that isn’t empowering. Give it up!
17. Not doing what you said you would do.
Opportunities are attracted to reliable people. Your goals and dreams are a function of the promises you make and keep. When you don’t keep your promises, everything gets harder. So think about this, “If your life is hard, consider you aren’t keeping promises.”
18. Doing things half-ass.
Your life is what you are putting into it. If you are not doing things as they are meant to be done, then your life will suck (code for not being the way you want it to be)
19. Not trusting people.
The Drunk Monkey (your mind) is designed to keep you alive in a world where you are definitely going to die. You trust people in direct prorportion to how much you trust yourself. You are getting what you put out.
20. Gossiping.
You get what you give. If you gossip, then people won’t trust you fully. They figure if you talk sh*t about others, then you must do it about them as well. If you gossip about others, then you are tarnishing your own reputation by tarnishing others. Even if what you are gossiping about is true.
Well, there it is. 20 ways you make your life suck. I hope you got value out of this list and stop pretending that outside circumstances are effecting you. If your life sucks, it’s all your fault.
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2 Comments
Thanks for the wonderful list Matthew.
14 & 15 are the same?
or something slightly different in a way of not being too serious?!
Thanks you Matthew, your wisdom has shaped my thinking and put me on a new path to success. It’s amazing how much psychology plays into what will happen with us.
You’re a gift to humanity and we all appreciate everything you are doing.
It was great seeing you at Thach’s lunch today. I look forward to connecting.
All the best,
Paul Anderson
Business Psychology Consultant