One of my very powerful clients has been fighting for her financial life. To make things worse, she started having marriage trouble as well. Funny how those so often go together.
She has been resisting everything. “I will not allow myself to be a loser! I’ve never been broke and I’m not about to start at age 58!!” she would spit with venom through her teeth at me. I kept encouraging her to surrender. Often people misunderstand that word. In my world, surrender doesn’t mean to lie down and give up. Surrender means to quit fighting with the wave that you are caught up in, relax, regroup and get ready for the inspiration that follows.
When you are out in the ocean and a big wave hits you, you can fight it but you won’t win. The key is to relax completely and output zero energy. When you do, the opportunity to surface will present itself and when it does you will have the energy to take it.
Same with life. When you go into a calm peaceful state, opportunities present themselves and suddenly magic occurs.
My client finally surrendered. She faced her fears of becoming financially drowned and her marriage dying. She realized that she would be okay either way. As soon as she let go and let God, magic started happening everywhere. Money started trickling in again, which gave her hope. Her new peaceful state started creating more communication between her and her husband and things started to mend. Magic!
What are you resisting? Who are you resisting?
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Matt, I think we are all resisting … some more than others and in all different areas of our lives! We all need to learn to “Surrender” more in our lives and let go of the ego, being humble actually allows us to see more clearly, Thank you for teaching me this! To a POWERFUL day!
Matt, so true!! I now believe the power of surrendering totally. About 3 weeks ago I was defining my whole existence by one deal! My drunk monkey kept telling me ” if you don’t double end this deal you are finished this is the most important deal to date financially, you blow it it’s over, you’ll have to quit real estate, let’s face it you will never be able to sell bigger ticket homes on and on and on…” Finally, I surrendered and said, it is what it is and went back to being happy and living! The minute I surrendered not only did I feel free, the peace that came over me was tremendous. Since then not only have I done 4 more deals listed 2 more homes, guess what I am about to take and sell a bigger ticket homes 1.1 mill to be exact. Matt I have made a point of surrendering on a daily basis and is it ever Magical!! Thanks for your guidance as a coach how can I ever repay the wonderful things you have given me. Humbly yours Mary.
Surrender Surrender Surrender- thats all I used to get to hear from my mentor for months- always asking surrender what surrender what-
It took time however eventually I learnt the art of surrender – I am powerless over people places and things- the only power I have is in Changing Me – how I think and in thinking I change how I feel
The greatest thing about surrendering (handing over) is not just the peace that comes with it but the joy in getting on with it – the love of now and the best is yet to come.
I love it- sometimes those waves appear like title waves surrender to them and you can ride the wave all the way to the shore.