The Prison You Create With Your Words

Dated: date May 12, 2011 – 9:42 am

This week I’ve noticed that my clients make unconditional statements that trap them in a reality they don’t want.

One said, “I’m non committal” This is a false statement. You aren’t anything until you declare it. You might have moments when you can’t decide and then there are other times when you can. A more powerful way to say this is, “Right now I seem to be having troubles deciding. But I know that my lack of clarity will give way to clarity and again. In the mean time I’m simply going to be open to all the aspects of life that will come to help me choose.”

Another said, “I just can’t” Totally false. It’s not that you can’t. It is that you won’t. Better to be honest, “Right now I don’t wan to to do this. I know it’s important but I just don’t feel like doing anything about it. I’ve been in this place before an I know that my inspiration will return and I will finally get into action. If not, I will simply recognize that I don’t want to take the action and cancel my promise to do so.”

Someone said, “I don’t do that” Not true. You don’t want to do that. Its not that you don’t, as it you can’t. It is that you won’t as in you don’t want to.

So often our language implies that there are forces greater then ourselves dictating our choices and behavior. Sorry. Not true. The responsibility for you life lies squarely on your shoulders. Enjoy that power.

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Stepping Out of Destruction

Dated: date May 10, 2011 – 8:51 am

This morning I got up and went to the gym. Whew!!! It’s been 25 days. Last night I realized I’d been in a breakdown. It all started with a 7 day holiday in Hawaii. When I was there I indulged on foods I don’t normally eat, didn’t exercise and my sleep cycle changed with the time zone. When I returned home I had (stupidly in hindsight) scheduled myself to work for 10 days straight. I never gave myself time to gently return to my routine.

Looking back, I can see that I was smiling on the outside but slightly complaining on the inside. Those complaints are attractive. They led to justifications of destruction. “I deserve to have this sugar! I’ve been working hard!” My Drunk Monkey would say to me and “You are to tired to get up and workout” Well next thing I knew my thinking started getting cloudy, I began getting grumpy. The worse it got, the worse it became.

All it takes to get off the destruction train is one action. Last night on a business call I admitted to a business partner that I was on a downward spiral and that today I was going to take steps in a positive upward spiral. In other words I admitted it publicly and declared new actions publicly. That was the trick. This morning I feel great. I plan to keep moving myself in the direction of feeling good again. How about you?

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Destruction

Dated: date May 2, 2011 – 9:08 am

Breakdown IS the beginning of breakthrough. Something good IS happening. I’ve seen this 100′s of times. Sometimes when your life is “transforming” if feels like it is being destroyed. Rest assured, it is not. It is changing form to fit with the new version of YOU that you have been intending to bring into form.

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Stop Listening To The Drunk Monkey

Dated: date April 20, 2011 – 3:28 pm

Are you getting it? Are you starting to see The Drunk Monkey, all that talking in your head, is running your life? Are you seeing that The Drunk Monkey isn’t interested in your goals and dreams? Are you noticing that The Drunk Monkey is trying to protect you from negative futures that aren’t even coming? This week notice how you are reacting to events that aren’t even there, figments of your imagination. Start to shine the light of awareness on The Drunk Monkey. Stop believing what it’s saying to you. Just say, “Oh thank you Drunk Monkey! You are so kind to keep me safe from negative futures that aren’t even coming! I know you want me to be safe but there is no danger so let’s just keep moving forward” Be sure to acknowledge yourself today. You are learning, growing and evolving. That’s not normal. That’s extraordinary. Do you hear me, “You are extraordinary!” Now notice how the drunk monkey won’t let that in. Have fun with The Drunk Monkey today.

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Bliss Is Your Natural State

Dated: date April 19, 2011 – 3:26 pm

Bliss is your natural state. It’s what you feel when there is no fear present.

Fear is of the mind. So more precisely, Bliss is a state of no mind.

How do you get there?

Four words: Awareness, flexibility, options/choice and power

Awareness of the nonstop talking machine in your head, which I call The Drunk Monkey

The Drunk Monkey is that talking in your head, that little voice, the devil inside, the commentator, the judge, the jerk, the nasty person who won’t shut up in our head…The one you have mistaken for yourself.

The talking in your head is not you, it’s biology.

The talking in your head is not you, it’s a survival machine.

Awareness of that gives you flexibility, and flexibility gives you options…

Ultimately what does that mean? Options mean you have a choice.

Choosing new perspectives on the situation empowers you and makes you feel good.

Once you see fear, anger, doubt, frustration, suffering, hate, sadness and anxiety for what it is, you can chose something else.

Once you see that you are The Drunk Monkey’s puppet and the strings are negative emotion, you can chose to view the situation in an empowering context that gets you inspired and in action!

Any time I feel powerless, I choose a new perspective that empowers me.

Change your point of view, change your reality. Change your reality, change your response. Change your response and you transform your world (repeat)

Awareness is the seed of power

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What’s Truly Right?

Dated: date April 17, 2011 – 8:00 am

Right and wrong are just agreements that we’ve made with other people. The don’t exist in reality. They are just arbitrary points of view. If you are starving to death, your definition would change. Because right and wrong depend on context.

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