Making Things Up Kills Opportunities

Dated: date July 13, 2011 – 8:16 am

The Drunk Monkey generalizes.  In other words, The Drunk Monkey makes things up.  Generalizing is a survival tool.  And a good one at that!  Touch the stove and that animal part of your physiology will direct you to not do it again.  Step into traffic and a car screeches to a halt.  Now your nervous system directs you to look both ways.  Hip hip horay for The Drunk Monkey!

Only problem is, most of your life is not dangerous.  Yet, The Drunk Monkey will associate anything that stresses you with danger.  Then it will begin to speculate that anything like the times you were stressed should be avoided.

When you are in Survival mode you spend enormous amounts of energy avoiding fantasies.  When The Drunk Monkey Generalizes you become hypnotized by a fantasy.

In other words Generalizing = You make things up!!

If you listen to the Drunk Monkey in action you will hear it Judging, assessing, quantifying, categorizing and generalizing.

The Drunk Monkey is not in the business of going for it, taking action, getting excited and living the dream!  The Drunk Monkey doesn’t care about creating pleasant experiences.  It could care less if you feel good.  It could care less about achieving your goals.

If you set a goal, then The Drunk Monkey will go to work inventing a fantasy about how it will all happen.  It will create a set of generalizations to anticipate the future.  In the mean time… The Universe/God/Source Energy/Life Force will conspire upon your behalf, stuff will start to happen, results will start to be produced…BUT…results will be produced in a way that looks different from what The Drunk Monkey anticipated.

EMERGENCY!!!!!  The Drunk Monkey gets scared because its expectations where broken.

When your expectations are broken, you’ve entered the unknown.  The Drunk Monkey hates the unknown and believes that it is a survival situation.  Your body gets pumped full of action chemicals.  You know these chemicals as emotions.  Fear, anger, upset, frustration, doubt… Your body will either attack or run away.  Either response will shoot you in the foot and stop you from achieving the results you want.

The Drunk Monkey wants to survive.  But you know the problem.  You are definitely going to die, someday.  Going for your goals is not dangerous.  Just different then what you do now.

 

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You Won’t Survive So Stop Trying

Dated: date July 11, 2011 – 8:25 am

Listen to your mind, The Drunk Monkey and you will hear thoughts about

  • Getting ahead
  • Looking good
  • Being right
  • Figuring things out
  • Opinions, options & speculations

If you are really honest about each of these thoughts, then you see that they are about getting a mate and staying alive longer.

Major Problem:  You aren’t going to survive!  Everyone and I mean everyone is going to die!  Right?  Are you going to escape death?  No.  Then why spend time avoiding the unavoidable.  While you are studying my material, it is becoming more and more apparent that survival is an illegitimate pursuit.  There is no need to survive.

The very fact that you are reading these words tells me that you are someone who is living an amazing life. You are someone who already has a powerful influence over your world.  There is no way you could be considering living a life of happiness and success if you were in an actual survival situation.  The bottom line is you are in an opulent situation.

Let’s face it; you probably already have a car, house, clothes, electronics and many other luxury items. You are a consumer, which means that your life is not about survival.

Today Consider:  My life is about pleasure.

Your life is about getting what you want and having it all.  You are in pursuit of joy, freedom, peace, happiness and all kinds of other pleasurable feelings.  Why do you want to be in action on your most cherished dreams?  What will that powerful state give you?  More accomplishment, more achievement, more objectives completed, more creativity expression, more acquired, more expansion, more money, more, more more more more…What is the purpose of more?

To feel good.  In the end, you want to feel good.  I hate to break the news to you but, that is not a survival situation.

Consider the lengths you go to survive in non-survival situations.

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The Drunk Monkey is a Survival Machine

Dated: date July 9, 2011 – 8:11 am

You are not The Drunk Monkey, your mind, that talking in your head.  You don’t say “I mind,” you say “My mind” like you possess a mind.  Yet, how often is The Drunk Monkey directing your choices in life?  How often do you make a decision to follow your dreams and The Drunk Monkey talks you out of it?  The answer for most of us is “almost always”.

Is the drunk monkey your master or servant?

How often are you listening to The Drunk Monkey say things to you?

How often does The Drunk Monkey have an opinion on your life?  Always!

Once you see The Drunk Monkey for what it is, you will spontaneously jump to another level of happiness and peace.  You will be in action without fear.

Consider these three important thoughts:

Thinking is automatic.

Thinking is not who I am.

Thinking is Survival.

Begin noticing that every aspect of your being is designed to survive.

Start to observe that your attitude, personality, mind-set, opinions, qualities and characteristics are all designed to keep you alive longer.  Each of your aspects are not designed to be goal achieving mechanisms.  The aspects of your personality… your point of view, your opinions about the world… are not designed to bring you more happiness or peace and they are certainly not designed to give you satisfaction.

Consider it’s the opposite.

 

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Breakthrough to Bliss Weekend Report

Dated: date June 2, 2011 – 2:48 pm
This just got posted on my facebook wall by a long time customer who recently attended the Breakthrough To Bliss Weekend

“Matthew – The class I took with you is literally shifting everything. I have gone from zero to full momentum, focus, connection, engagement and bliss with my family and life. The service you have provided is the most life altering work I have ever done. Just wanted to let you know the difference your work is continuing to make in my life.”

Thanks Jennifer Loskamp

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Do I Need To Change To Make Others Happy?

Dated: date May 29, 2011 – 2:11 pm

I recieved an interesting question from a facebook friend this morning, “Whenever i am happy and do stuff that makes me happy… it annoys people! I have fun… and I kinda like being crazy!! I like being what I am and I don’t care if people say that I am too silly or immature. It actually makes me happy that I can have fun and they can’t.  Isn’t is bad that they are getting annoyed and pissed off? What should i do? Change my behavior?”

There are two parts to look at.  First do you want to be in alignment with these people?  If the answer is “Yes” then you talk to them about your behavior and find out why they want you to change.  If they are important enough to you, then you consider being flexible and making some changes.  Maybe there is something about your behavior that is destructive to your friendships that you are

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How To Kill Off Your Power Today

Dated: date May 13, 2011 – 10:29 am

If you have awareness, you can generate your own context.  With the right context you can be empowered no matter what the situation is.

Normally we do not take responsibility for the context we create in a situation.  We pretend that we are at the effect of our circumstances.  This is a lie that fundamentally kills off our power and our joy in life.

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