Action + Inspiration = Magic

Dated: date July 30, 2010 – 2:10 pm

Action + inspiration = magic. Action on its own, well, not much magic comes out of that. Inspiration all by itself, again, not much magic comes out of that. You want incredible, mind blowing magical experiences. I like to call them unexpected, unexplainable, good fortune. How do you get there?

You need to work to get into an inspired state. What does that mean? Inspiration is imbued with the spirit to do something. So, in order to be imbued with the spirit to do something, you need to work to get all the junk out of your head. This is the work that I do with people on the drunk monkey. Then you’ve got to define the actions that you are going to take. What I find is when I’m working with someone who already has a very, very powerful skill set, I support them in getting out of pushing and forcing and manipulating; getting out of the fear that it’s not going to happen. When you do that, you get into this inspired state, and you get clear on the vision.

When you do that, you add your skills, your action and your inspiration; put them together. Bam, things just take off, and you can double, triple, quadruple the kinds of results that you’re getting now. I highly recommend that you focus on what you’re good at and that you remove all of the negativity that is standing in the way of your true inspiration, and magic will happen in your life.

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Are Spiritual People Losers?

Dated: date July 29, 2010 – 3:04 pm

Do spiritual people have to be losers; no, they don’t.

One of my clients said to me, “Matthew, if I get too spiritual, then I’m going to find that I don’t want to work anymore, and I don’t want to be with my family, and you know I’m not gonna live up to my responsibilities.” But that is just not true! The exact opposite is true. As you develop your spirituality, the belief in the unseen forces of life and the meta physical understanding and appreciation, your fear starts to disappear. And when your fear starts to disappear, you become incredibly responsible, effective, and powerful.

I highly recommend that you take on spirituality and fostering your beliefs in your spirituality because it is going to make you a more productive and effective person in our society.

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How to Combat Stress

Dated: date July 21, 2010 – 1:29 pm

How do you combat stress?

A lot of my clients come to me and they’re just like the rest of us; they have a big life. They’re up to things and they’re taking things on. When you get a lot of projects going, it’s so easy to get stressed.

There are physical ways to combat stress. There’s exercise, diet, meditation, things like that. 100 percent, yes. Do all that. But I’m not going to focus on those. The most effective way to combat stress is just to realize that stress is an illegitimate response to danger that doesn’t even exist in your life.

See, the drunk monkey in your head is trying to keep you safe, trying to keep you alive. How’s it doing that? Well, it’s examining the situation. It’s saying, “That’s wrong. That shouldn’t be like that. This needs to change.” The drunk monkey is insane. The drunk monkey thinks that your life is broken. So, what it’s doing is it’s pumping your body full of adrenaline, and adrenaline gets your body tense, gets the muscles moving, and we experience this as stress.

If you can just begin to recognize that your life is not broken, implement some attitudes of gratitude. Maybe start doing the 10/10 visualization process, or using the gratitude intention and delegation process. You can find both of those on my blog if you type in 10/10 visualizationor or gratitude intention. You’ll find the process there.

You want to get the mind into a mode where it’s not relating to the world like, “Everything is broken. You’re going down the tubes.” If you can start to see that none of that is truth, then your stress is going to go away and you’re going to go back to a state of bliss again. And that’s what I want for you. I want to help you do that, okay?

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How To Pick a Life Coach

Dated: date July 20, 2010 – 2:15 pm

How do you pick a life coach?

I think that it really comes down to making sure that that person has done what it is that you want to accomplish. For example, if you want someone to help you start your business, you should pick someone who has built businesses before.

But if you want someone to help you have an effective life, then you want to pick someone who literally has an effective life. They have great relationships with their kids, great relationships with their spouse, their mothers, their fathers. They have good health. They have effective finances. They do well in their business. They have a great social life. They are being effective in the area of contribution. Look for that person who is well-rounded in the areas that you want to take on.

The thing that I love to coach people on is the thing that I have spent my life working on mastering, which is getting into a state of ridiculous, unbelievable bliss, joy, supreme happiness. That’s the thing that I have been spending my life on. And if you’re looking for a coach to do something like that, I’d love to help you.

If you’re looking for somebody to help you with something else, then I’m not the right guy for you.

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Relationship Blues

Dated: date July 15, 2010 – 2:00 pm

The drunk monkey is definitely running your relationship if you are saying, “I love him, but – ” “I love her, but I wish she would – ”

You see, what the drunk monkey says is “If my partner was more like me – if my partner did life the way that I thought they should do life, well, then they’d be much better.” You were conditioned like a dog to believe that your way of being in a relationship is the right way. You were conditioned, like a dog – pee over here. Poop over there. Do this. Say that. Walk like this. Talk like that. You didn’t make your own choices about who you were going to be. And yet you demand that your partner make the same choices as you.

Consider that if you don’t accept someone exactly as they are, you don’t actually love them. Consider you’re trying to change them. Changing someone is not loving them. Loving them is letting them be exactly who they are, as well as all the things that they’re not. Stop holding people accountable to agreements that they never made, and your life is going to get so much easier.

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Can Money Buy You Happiness?

Dated: date July 15, 2010 – 9:57 am

A new study that has come out says, yes, in fact, money can buy you happiness.

I suppose that there is some validity to this. When you have money, you can buy experiences that distract you from the inner sense of “This isn’t it” which it seems all humans have.

I worked with thousands of people who have made big money, anywhere from $100,000 a year to $100MM a year, and most of them came to me because they had the money, they had the cars, they had the stuff, they had the beautiful wives and husbands and kids and travel; they had it all.

And yet, they were still feeling like someday in the future, they were going to finally get to that place where they were feeling that fulfillment and that satisfaction that so many people call happiness. Now, were these happy and positive people overall? Absolutely, yes. But could they say, I am absolutely happy with my life, and the answer is, no.

Yet, after going through the coaching that I took them through, each and every one of those people was able to get to a place where they could authentically say, yes, I am happy with my life. Because ultimately happiness is a function of accepting things exactly as they are.

If you are unable to accept things exactly as they are, those things will bother you and bug you and annoy you and agitate you. The ultimate goal here is to accept the situation exactly as it is. So, today consider making a list of all the things that you do not accept about your life. What annoys you? What agitates you? What freaks you out? What makes you feel sad or angry or upset? Then, begin to look at why you have declared those things wrong.

Start to notice that somewhere along the line, you accidentally declared yourself the ruler of the universe and that all people should bow down to your infinite wisdom and that the world should change itself and people should shift their behavior to fit with your preferences.

Consider that the pathway to true, profound happiness, which I call ridiculous bliss, is actually learning to catch the mind and its basic function called, This isn’t it, it shouldn’t be this way. When you can see the mind saying, This isn’t it, it shouldn’t be this way, then you can say, well, how do you know, mind? The moment you can say, how do you know, mind, is the moment that you are no longer sucked into the drama and the negativity that degrade your overall happiness. Try it today.

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