People annoy you because you are holding them accountable to standards they didn’t sign up for.  You want people to behave in the way that you deem appropriate.  That don’t.  That’s annoying, right?  Wrong.  Your resistance to the situation is what you deem annoying.  Another way of saying it is that you are annoying yourself by resisting.

So what’s the solution?  Notice that you are not the lord of the universe and realize that your opinion about things only causes you to suffer.  Practice just letting it be and see what happens.  It’s an experiment.  Be a scientist.

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Worried

Last night I had one of those nights where my mind worried.  Using my techniques I didn’t pay much attention.  But I use to get gripped by the madness.  Laying there not able to do anything about any concern because it’s midnight, I’m in my PJ’s and I’m trying to go to sleep for god sake!.  Those were some bad nights.

The trick to getting some distance from the insanity of The Drunk Monkey is my main philosophy, “Total and complete acceptance of all people in all situations at all times, including myself.”

So, last night I was practicing total acceptance and I didn’t get rapped up in the drama.  But I did begin to notice the source.  And that’s what this post is about.  Those conditions that make my mind (and probably yours too) worried.

5 Conditions That Were Present Prior To The Night of Worry.

1.  Not enough sleep.  I’ve been burning the midnight oil for about two weeks straight completing some projects.

2.  Too much work!  I have agreed to do some new projects for my fathers company which was basically a choice to work more.

3.  Minimal fitness training.  Because the above dominoes fell, I choose to work out less.  If I work out four days a week, I feel great.  If I work out less, I feel less then great.

4.  Eating poorly.  I notice that when I’m tired and exhausted, I’m drawn to sugar, carbs, fat and caffeine.  An energetically lethal combo when over done.  (for my body/mind/spirit).

5.  And finally to top it all off… Labor day party filled weekend.  If my equilibrium wasn’t trashed already, then two straight days of beach, eating bad and minimal sleep tipped me right over the edge.

The Results:  My mind goes crazy with worry, doubt, fear about the future and tries to keep me awake.  Thank God I have the tools to ignore it or this would be a very hard week.

By the way, I’m doing a FREE training call Wednesday called…

Control Your Thoughts, Control Your Life

If you want to learn some of my tricks to keeping The Drunk Monkey under control, then check it out here.

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Many of my clients spend their time avoiding disasters in their life.  Nothing slows you down more then that.  Disasters, chaos, destruction and failure are critical parts of your life’s progression.

You don’t learn from doing it right.  You don’t evolve from winning.  You don’t grow from success.  Doing it right, winning and success are the result of the lessons you learn from failing.

You need the contrast of not getting what you want.  Don’t resist.  Engage it.  Every time a client goes into breakdown I aways say, “Something good is going to happen out of this.  I wonder what it will be?”

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A blind squirrel can find a nut every once in a while.  Can you find happiness without practicing awareness?  Yes.  Every once in a while.  But, if you are willing to examine your thoughts, see The Drunk Monkey for what it is, you can find happiness every single day.

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There is no world out there.

Not at least the world you experience.  Yes, there is something out there, but what you are experiencing isn’t it.  What you are experiencing is your opinion, your perception and your conditioning.  How you relate to the world is what the world is for you.  Two people can be in the exact same situation and have completely different experiences.

Are there atoms, electrons and such out there in the world? Apparently science is getting a better grasp on that.  But it takes multimillion dollar machines to see what is really going on in the world.  So the actual reality is not something humans have day to day access to.  You and I have access to the information our senses bring in to our consciousness.

Why is this relevant?

Your husband isn’t really a jerk.  That’s just your opinion.  Not the truth.

The president isn’t actually doing anything you say he is.  That’s just your perception of the situation.

The world isn’t all screwed up.  That’s just the way you see it.

There is nothing to fear.  That’s just a biological reaction to the stimulus in the environment.  Other people aren’t afraid of the same things you are.  Therefore you fear is not real or the truth.

Today see the world for what it really is, just your opinion.  Notice how much more relaxed and enjoyable life is.

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Most powerful people mistakenly believe that anger is a choice.  With further examination and attention to the matter you will see that the body reacts to potential threats automatically.  To control the answer and turn it into something positive you need to do the following.

a.  Notice the body reacting negatively.  Most positive people avoid negative feelings.  A more powerful thing to do is to feel them completely to understand the feeling.  Rather then resisting it or denying it, feel it fully from a detached observer point of view.

b.  Step back and see the whole situation.  See the upsetting situation from all points of view and notice that the anger, fear etc dissipates quickly.

In the anger is automatic.  Happiness, peace, joy and all the other positive emotions are chosen.

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