Everyone says gratitude is the key to happiness and after coaching more than 8000 people to achieve happiness and success, I believe they are right. But how do you actually achieve gratitude? Have you ever noticed that your mind, which I call The Drunk Monkey isn’t normally grateful? In fact, have you noticed that being grateful isn’t as easy as people make it sound? In this article we will explore why it is hard to be grateful and how to actually be grateful.
Why is Gratitude Hard to Achieve?
Gratitude is difficult to achieve because The Drunk Monkey isn’t particularly interested in what you are happy about. As you pay attention to The Drunk Monkey in your head, you will notice that is concerned with safety, getting ahead and routine matters. T he mind is just biology. It is just energy moving through fields of neurons in your brain. It’s job is to assist this giant colony of cells, which you call your body, to stay alive and propagate.
Today, as you start paying attend to The Drunk Monkey in your head, it will be easy to see The Drunk Monkey does not spend time appreciating and enjoying. It’s to busy keeping you safe, organizing the future, analyzing the past, making assumptions about what will happen next and planning to do something about it. Since gratitude is not about anticipating potential problems and avoiding it, gratitude is not a normal process for The Drunk Monkey.
How to Achieve Gratitude
To achieve gratitude you must recognize your habitual mental states and go beyond them.