1. Expectation. When you expect things to work out, they often do. When you expect that things will not work out, they often don’t. Generally your life is what you are expecting. I say generally because sometimes its not immediate and you have an opportunity to change it. Two people can be in the same situation, expect different results and different results occur. You are in charge of what’s happening in your Life.
The problem happens when your expectations get broken. You have an expectation, life happens differently, now your in reaction. Reaction almost always means fear based response. Example: You expect a customer to say yes to a proposal. The customer doesn’t. Your body will naturally react to the rejection as if it is a threat. Suddenly you are in fight or flight mode. You are not likely taking positive forward moving action and you screw up the next deal and the next one. You create a down ward spiral.
Key: Notice your reactions. Noticing gives you choice. Then you can use the second word.
2. Acceptance. Acceptance is not passivity, it’s just not taking a position. You practice not being for or against. You just notice without an opinion. This puts you into the drivers seat of your life.
3. Commitment vs Attachment. When you are committed you don’t get stopped because it doesn’t have to go the way you envisioned it. You simply want the outcome. When you are attached, you try to force life to be the way you want it. The issue with being attached is that you are not psychic. You can’t predict the future and life goes the way it goes. Staying committed allows for you to be open to all the potential ways you might achieve something. That leads to the next word.
4. Flexibility. This is your greatest asset as a person. Being flexible allows you to be happy in any situation. Being flexible gives you enormous power because you don’t get stuck. Flexibility is creative and makes you resourceful. When you are flexible you are more social; you get along with a wider variety of people. The more people you can deal with, the more power you have in life because people are the ultimate resource. Flexibility leads to the last word.
5. Options. The person with the most options has the most power. Having optionality is what freedom is. When you have options, you are unstoppable.
I’m doing another complementary webinar April 6th called, “Happiness & Success Tool Kit” where I will give you 4 indispensable tools for happiness and success.
Does your mindset work for you?
Are you happy, fulfilled and satisfied… or …
Do you still get stressed… or worried… or…
Do you feel doubt about whether you will ever achieve the success you deserve?
If your mindset gets in the way of your success, then I can help.
Been mediating a lot. Sometimes 2 hours. I’ve really lowered the bar and it helped. I have a minimum standard of 1 minute of mediation per day. That has lead to endless hours of mediation because there is no pressure. I just say, “All I have to do is 1 minute” I close my eyes take a few deep breaths and 45 minutes later decide to stop.
When I use to force myself to do it everyday for 30 minutes it seemed like a chore so I resisted it. 1 minute is no big deal. I’ve now meditated 179 days in a row. My personal record.
The world you see out there, is just your opinion. There is no such world. Apparently there is something out there but science doesn’t seem to know what it is. Regardless of what science tells us, what you experience is completely unique and based on your perceptual filters.
For example: One of my clients has been upset with his daughter for not cleaning up after herself. I proposed to him that what he didn’t like about her is something he was unwilling to accept about himself. I told him that once he accepts it within himself, her messiness will no longer bug him. He didn’t agree.
So I asked, “Scale of 1-10 how organized are your finances?” He replied, “2″. I asked him if he was happy with that. He wasn’t. I asked a similar question about his closet and got a similar response. I asked him about his office, his car, his database. All were not as organized as he wanted. Within 2 minutes he realized that his life was a “mess” compared to what he wanted. He had been making himself wrong.
He’s stopped being bugged by his daughters messiness and started sorting out what blocks him from being as organized as he wants.
One of my clients owns a killer line of juice/coffee shops in Europe called Joe & the Juice. He’s all excited about it and just sent me this little video of his London store from his iPhone. Thought I would share it with you. Next he plans to expand to the US starting in Miami.
Get the 7 Steps to Happiness & Success e-Course Now!
Premier Product
Discover Matthew's ground breaking virtual coaching program. In the first 4 weeks, you will begin to experience more happiness in your life, or we'll give you your money back. No questions asked. That is how confident we are that street tested techniques and tools in Inspired Action Weekly will get you results.
April 13, 2011 – 8:00 am
Tags: 
