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May 15, 2012 – 5:37 am
Originally posted August 12, 2010
A great Gratitude Exercise is what I call gratitude, intention and delegation. Every day I have a group of people that I do this with. Every day I will write out what I’m grateful for: I am grateful for my family, I’m grateful for my kids, I’m grateful for my customers. I just start to write out everything that I’m grateful for. Then my intentions are more about how what I want to feel and what I want to experience that day. That’s how I define intentions in this exercise, so I intend to feel creative. I intend to be inspired. I intend to be empowering.
It’s feeling, being, experiencing states and then delegations. A lot of times the things that I want are a little beyond what I know how to create, so what I do is I use a method that I learned from Jerry and Esther Hicks. I delegate them to the universe. I say, “I’m so thankful to the universe for providing me with three opportunities this month to make $50,000 dollars or something better.” I always add “or something better” at the very end, so gratitude, intention and delegation. Me, personally, I like to do it with a group and have a structure where everybody’s sending it to each other. It is much more powerful.
You’re going to find that practicing gratitude is going to make a huge difference. There is one last thing that will make a huge difference in your world. As you’re walking around throughout your day, spend time appreciating the beauty of everything around you. Just that state of appreciating beauty will put you into an incredible state. Try these techniques: gratitude, delegating, and appreciating beauty. They will make a profound difference in your life.
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May 14, 2012 – 5:35 am
Originally posted August 24, 2010
Well, it turns out that happiness and sadness both spread like diseases. In a study done by Harvard University and MIT, a mathematical model was put to a study to see if happiness and sadness, if your emotional state infects other people. Guess what? It does.
Over a several-year period, they realized that by applying a traditional, infectious disease simulation to the data they had collected on 1,880 test subjects, the sadness would spread throughout the people who were exposed to it. The happy would spread throughout the people who were affected by it.
I remember my son saying to us at dinner the other day, “It is so weird Dad. When I am here at your house, my complaints disappear so quickly. I am able to maintain my happiness and my joy so much more easily than when I am over at Mom’s.” It just confirmed for me that one person’s commitment to happiness can massively and dramatically affect everyone else in your life.
So what are you committed to? Are you going to spread the disease of the drunk monkey? Or, are you going to spread the disease of your higher self into your life today?
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May 11, 2012 – 10:15 pm
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May 11, 2012 – 6:32 am
Originally posted on March 7, 2011
The world you see out there, is just your opinion. There is no such world. Apparently there is something out there but science doesn’t seem to know what it is. Regardless of what science tells us, what you experience is completely unique and based on your perceptual filters.
For example: One of my clients has been upset with his daughter for not cleaning up after herself. I proposed to him that what he didn’t like about her is something he was unwilling to accept about himself. I told him that once he accepts it within himself, her messiness will no longer bug him. He didn’t agree.
So I asked, “Scale of 1-10 how organized are your finances?” He replied, “2″. I asked him if he was happy with that. He wasn’t. I asked a similar question about his closet and got a similar response. I asked him about his office, his car, his database. All were not as organized as he wanted. Within 2 minutes he realized that his life was a “mess” compared to what he wanted. He had been making himself wrong.
He’s stopped being bugged by his daughters messiness and started sorting out what blocks him from being as organized as he wants.
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May 8, 2012 – 8:25 pm
Originally posted on June, 18 2008
The Drunk Monkey, your mind, is committed to keeping you alive. Therefore, it spends time proving its’ conclusions. All of your conclusions about life, your opinions about how life is, are just observations filtered through all of your other observations. Which means, our opinions are very skewed and off-base.
Let’s say your partner, lover, or significant other does something that contradicts your opinion. In your family you never yell at people. In your partner’s family they yell and scream when they feel anger. This yelling and screaming contradicts your opinion about how things “should” be. The Drunk Monkey deems it a threat and next thing you know you are operating like your partner is bad and wrong!
From that point on, this perception becomes self-reinforcing. Any time your partner reacts in a way that contradicts your opinion, The Drunk Monkey says “See! I told you he/she is wrong!”
Today, just notice how you say you love this person in your life, yet you have a laundry list of things that are wrong about them. That what you really are thinking is that if your partner were to be perfect, they would do everything the way you deem right.
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May 8, 2012 – 5:28 am
Originally posted on October 27, 2010
You are in a perpetual state of now. And I know that a lot of people think “but what does it mean exactly?” Well, it basically means that the drunk monkey in your head is constantly fantasizing about what’s coming up in the future. It’s obsessed with controlling the next minute, the next second, the next hour, the next day, the next year. And I want you to notice that there’s not much the drunk monkey can do about it.
The wisest thing to do is to ignore it and to say, “You know what, monkey, what is going to happen will be perfect. I have things I am committed to. I’m not being irresponsible. I do set goals and have objectives. But obsessing and going over and over and over it in my head right now really is not doing us any good.”
Another thing that the drunk monkey does that keeps you out of the present moment is it’s constantly thinking about the past. It’s regretting. It’s trying to re-write your past to make you look more favorable and it’s saying, “Well, that guy was wrong and he shouldn’t have been like that and that was really stupid and blah blah blah!” Just notice that you have so little control over this babbling and rambling in your head and that lack of control ultimately kills your bliss.
What you want to learn to do is ignore it. Try to constantly catch it and just say, “Shut up, monkey, I’m not interested.” Be right here, right now in the present moment. It’s very, very powerful. Lots of energy. Lots of joy. Lots of ecstasy available and waiting for you. But you have to learn to see or recognize the rambling in your head as completely irrelevant and then stop listening. And in that moment, you’ll be higher than you’ve ever been.
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