Are you doing what’s best for you or what’s habitual?

You know what to do, but how often do you do it? Consider you do, in your life, what you have structure for. If you want to have an amazing relationship, then you must create the structure to have it.  What is structure?  It is the promises you have made, either purposely or not on purpose.  It is the disciplines you have in place.  Structure is an agreement.  Structure is the set of expectations that people have of you.

What structures do you have for your relationship?  What expectations have you created?  What conversations are you forwarding by consistently bringing up?  What promises have you made and kept or broken?  What disciplines have you put into place to keep the peace in your relationship?  How often are you communicating about what is important?  Do you have rules about communicating?  Do you know your partner’s expectations about communicating?

My intention with today’s post was to get you thinking. If you would like more, sign up for an Inspired Action Coaching call. It might bring you some light.

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25 Comments

  1. Donna Balsz
    Posted July 10, 2008 at 1:00 pm | Permalink

    Structure what a simple but powerful concept. I left a 40 year marraige a few years ago and am now ready for a “real’ relationship. This idea of having a stucture is fantastic, and beginning a new relationship with one in place…wow…having one in place could even attract the best relationship! The quality of anything we do starts with the primary components. Thanks for the mind clearing!

  2. smatos
    Posted November 11, 2008 at 5:00 am | Permalink

    Hmm. Good.

  3. kamundsen
    Posted November 11, 2008 at 8:16 pm | Permalink

    I recently discovered this blog. I’ve had a similiar idea to your rewriting the ten commandments for some time now.

  4. TakingOff
    Posted November 12, 2008 at 6:35 pm | Permalink

    Hmm. Good question.

  5. fadthemisss
    Posted November 14, 2008 at 4:28 pm | Permalink

    Thanks for the post, I have been having the same problems.

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    Posted November 15, 2008 at 3:56 am | Permalink

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  7. traintop
    Posted November 15, 2008 at 7:15 am | Permalink

    Thanks for the post,

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    Posted November 15, 2008 at 10:35 am | Permalink

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    Posted November 17, 2008 at 10:01 am | Permalink

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  11. reg_lov_reg
    Posted November 17, 2008 at 5:58 pm | Permalink

    Good post.

  12. el_cheba
    Posted November 18, 2008 at 10:00 am | Permalink

    Nice blog btw

  13. kamundsen
    Posted November 26, 2008 at 6:21 pm | Permalink

    Thanks for the post, I have been having the same problems.

  14. correct007
    Posted November 27, 2008 at 7:43 pm | Permalink

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    Posted November 29, 2008 at 8:16 pm | Permalink

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  16. jgalucio
    Posted December 6, 2008 at 7:24 pm | Permalink

    Hmm. Good post.

  17. igormath
    Posted December 8, 2008 at 11:15 am | Permalink

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  18. markusbarth
    Posted December 9, 2008 at 2:54 am | Permalink

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  19. villber
    Posted December 9, 2008 at 9:10 am | Permalink

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    Posted December 10, 2008 at 3:01 pm | Permalink

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  21. kuzey_22
    Posted December 10, 2008 at 7:35 pm | Permalink

    I completely agree

  22. somelogin
    Posted December 11, 2008 at 6:19 pm | Permalink

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  23. nathan
    Posted December 12, 2008 at 4:16 am | Permalink

    Excellent essay and site. I put a link to your compassion essay on my website. Good work.

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    Posted February 26, 2009 at 6:46 am | Permalink

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