Are you a casualty of positivity? So many people are. “Matthew, I am positive, and I do all the positive things to make myself as super positive as I possibly can, and my life sucks; now what?” Most people don’t realize that positivity is the result of a particular point of view. You might be able to act positively, but underneath it if you are resisting the world, if you’re judging, assessing and evaluating people; if you’re judging yourself; if you’re making yourself wrong for making others wrong; if you’re resisting the world, you’re never going to actually experience true positivity and optimism.
True positivity and optimism comes from being in a state of appreciation, understanding; taking on an initiative of kindness; being someone who is completely releasing judgment. True positivity comes when you see that the drunk monkey in your head is not even really on your side. When all of those kinds of things start to occur, you experience an inner quality. This energy just starts to take over you. This optimism that you cannot even stop begins to take over you. That is true positivity, and that occurs from a new frame of reference versus taking on positive behaviors.