There are three actions that guarantee to your happiness. Happiness is a skill that anybody can learn. So most people believe that happiness is some kind of circumference that is outside of yourself. For example, “When I have the perfect, then I’ll be happier.” In other words, If this thing outside of myself happens, then I’ll be happy. A lot of people think happiness is formula. If I am watching the Super Bowl, having a cigar, drinking a drink with a hot girl on my side, then I’m happy.And those formulas certainly have their momentary hit, but long-term happiness is really just a skill. It’s really a shift in the way that you’re thinking about yourself and about your circumstances in life. Nothing needs to change to make you happy.
You Can Choose Happiness by Changing How You Take Action
1. Devotion. It’s a way of being. Do what you do in the moment to the very best of your ability. When your operating from that standpoint of really focusing in and doing your best, your mood elevates dramatically. Even if you aren’t doing it exactly right. Being intensely focused on doing your best feels good. If you’re doing the dishes, if you’re walking the dog, if you’re playing with the kids, if you are hanging out with your spouse, if you’re with your friends, do your best and you will get positive feelings. When you take the same actions you always take with devotion, the same action feels great!
2. Acts of Service. Helping others, contributing, making a difference, and supporting other people in a selfless way will make you happy. Anytime that you take your attention off of yourself, your happiness rises. When you get out of your head and be of service to others, you get a boost to your happiness. Consider this. Your unhappiness is just a self-centered focus. By focusing your attention on the service of others, you take your attention off of your problems and your happiness increases.
3. Appreciation. What do you like about people? What do you like about the situations you find yourself in? Looking for what you like about yourself. Active appreciation is anti-mind. The mind, The Drunk Monkey, all that talking in your head, it’s not focused on what’s right, what’s working, what you like, what you’re happy about. It’s focused on what’s wrong, what might be wrong, & what needs to be improved. It’s a survival mechanism, so its job is to look for what doesn’t work and then focus on those things, and, of course, that makes you unhappy.Devotion, service and appreciation, those three actions will get you happy. Try them today!
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I really loved this article. It is so true ad really works… This is what my dad use to quote all the time. Also, try helping others even if you don’t like them; diffucult to do but feels great. Going back to olden days of hindu mythology.