If you aren’t getting what you want…. The Drunk Monkey is to blame.
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When The Drunk Monkey is playing the role of The Assassin, it drives you to go on the attack. This might be in the form of mentally fantasizing about revenge. It is often played out in your conversations as you build a case as to why other people are wrong or should be stopped. In the extreme, it gets you to use negative political force against people, take revenge, and it attacks what it doesn’t agree with.
What you had envisioned success to be, isn’t at all what success actually is. Success is like standing in a hammock on one leg juggling twelve balls. Now that you’ve accomplished this incredible feet, it takes a lot to keep it going.
People who are already successful once believed that success would bring happiness. Happiness in the form of acknowledgement, appreciation, victory, money, power, self esteem etc. Now that you are successful and have received the accolades, you realize, it doesn’t make you happy.
In fact, success often brings even more negativity into your life. More people want something from you and demand your time. You have more responsibilities and accountabilities. To be successful often means you have created something that needs to be protected. Even worst, you may be among the many successful people who face the disastrous notion that what you have created isn’t even something you want.
To create happiness in your life takes a different set of success tools. The target is different. It’s not longer material success or accomplishment. The new target is emotional success. This is the next domain of success. Once you realize that success does not make you happy, you suddenly find yourself on journey.
Nothing outside of you will bring happiness. Nothing out in the world will ever make you happy. Happiness is both an art and a skill. Your mind, which I lovingly call, The Drunk Monkey is not designed for happiness. In fact, I’ll leave you with this thought, “Anything other then happiness and peace is just a state of mind.”
The Drunk Monkey is that non-stop talking, running commentary in your head that is constantly judging, assessing and keeping you safe from things that aren’t dangerous. The Drunk Monkey is the underlying cause of worry, stress and frustration.
He looks harmless enough. But once you really start to pay attention, you’ll see this sucker is robbing your happiness, blocking you from getting the things that you truly desire, and even keeping the people that you love at arms length. To The Drunk Monkey, life is scary. And it’s job is to protect you – even from your dreams and people that mean the most to you. Yes, it’s crazy. But once you learn to tame the insanity that he brings to everyday life, the faster you start manifesting your deepest dreams and desires.
This is a discipline. It’s the exact opposite of your normal mental functioning. When you pay attention to The Drunk Monkey, you see that it has an opinion on everything; including things it knows nothing about. The Drunk Monkey says, “He shouldn’t be that way!” or “This is not right!” To create true happiness, you must recognize that these are just opinions. Even more important, is to realize that opinions are the source of your suffering. Life is just “life-ing” along and your opinion about it won’t change it. To accept the situation as it is, gives you the emotional well being you need to focus on what really matters to you. To allow The Drunk Monkey to ramble endlessly about how things should be different, is a waste of time and energy. Ultimately it degrades your experience of life.
It’s insane to get upset with other people for not doing what you want.
It’s insane to be in a state of unhappiness when you don’t get what you want in one area of life, and have that unhappiness contaminate the rest of your life.
It’s insane to hold people accountable to promises they didn’t make.
This insanity is all courtesy of The Drunk Monkey.
It thinks people should do what it wants.
It thinks that being unhappy is an effective way to live.
It thinks that people should behave according to its doctrine, known or not.
Are you letting this egotistical, crazy, opinionated lunatic in your head run the show?
You don’t have to. But first you have to see it in action. Today, notice that your mind is a non-stop judging, assessing and opinion generating machine.
And then laugh.
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