Deatch, Allow and Receive

When you’re attached, things don’t really work very well. People say, “Well, you need to detach.” Right? Well, what does that mean exactly? It means that you come to grips with the outcomes of your goals and dreams being okay if they fail or if they succeed, or anywhere in between. You detach. I have a client, for example, who is in the middle of building an enormous division inside of a very big bank. And he had a key meeting today. And in this meeting, if the person said, “Yes,” then all of his dreams – everything that he’s been working on, comes into fruition in one meeting.

So, you can imagine that, initially, he was like, “Oh my god, is it going to work and what am I going to do?” And all that – and the drunk monkey in his head. What if? What if? What if? What if? What if? What if? What if? Now, what I had to do was help him to come to grips that his project may not go the way he wants and that his dream may collapse right there. And I had to get him to a place where he could deal with that and accept it, that if it didn’t go he’d be okay.

The moment he got there, he could detach, he could allow the meeting to occur naturally without any manipulation, without any force, without any trying to make people do stuff. And then he could be open to receive exactly what he wanted. Detach. Allow. And receive.

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No Manifesting When Mad

Manifesting is not available when you’re mad at yourself, just so you know. When you are beating yourself up, when the drunk monkey in your head is saying, “you know, life sucks and I’m so stupid. And why am I doing this? What’s wrong with me?” When you’re in that place, you are emanating that which you don’t want.

When you are in a grumpy place about yourself, you’re not charismatic. You’re not attractive. You don’t say the right things. You’re not effective. You are not operating at your highest level. And all of that is going to stop what you want coming into your life. If you’re going to get into an attractive, powerful, charismatic state, you’ve got to do the inner work. You’ve got to do the inner work. You’ve got to start to clean up what is going on in your head. And if you don’t, I promise you, you will never attract the things that you want.

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How to be Optimistic

How do you get in an optimal state? Well, consider that optimal is optimism. Optimism puts you in an optimal state. How do you get optimistic? Well, you have to acknowledge that what you have now is actually pretty darn good. You have to begin to get present to the fact that your life rocks, that you’ve got amazing stuff going on, that you have opportunities that other people don’t have. I mean, the very fact that you’re reading this on a computer means that you have a computer. That already puts you in like, the top five percent of all humans on earth. You get that? You have an amazing life.

But, I guarantee you, the drunk monkey in your head doesn’t say you have an amazing life. It says, “Well, you’ll have an amazing life once you do this, and once you do that, and once you have this, and once you have that”. Have you ever noticed that no matter how much you accomplish you wake up the next morning and the drunk monkey has pinned a new list of demands on you forehead of things that you have to accomplish now in order to be good? You want to get in an optimal state? Practice gratitude daily. Just be grateful and as you are being grateful it will make you optimistic. And as you are being optimistic, you’ll be optimal.

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The Power of Connective Communication

When you are outcome-oriented in your communication, you’re going to have a more difficult time communicating versus when you are connection-oriented. When your goal is to connect with a person, understand them and their world, to know who they are, see what they’re up to, you’re going to find that things just go effortlessly. It’s smooth. It’s easy. But when you’re selfishly oriented, trying to make what you want happen – trying to produce and outcome in your communication, you’re just going to find that things are difficult and hard.

I recommend that you spend your time working on being concerned, trying to understand, seeking to appreciate. And what you’ll find is: Communication is a breeze there.

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Responsibility Equals Freedom

A lot of people say, “If I take on a lot of responsibility, I’m going feel trapped and I won’t have the freedom that I want.” I’m here to tell you that, actually, that’s the exact opposite. The more responsibility you take on in your life, the projects, the things that you’re up to, the things that you’re committed to in your life, the more freedom you have. Because when you take responsibility, you basically say, “I am the creator of this. I’m going to make this happen.”

All of that means, you can make what you want happen. Isn’t that cool? So you get to make your goals and your dreams happen by being responsible, by saying, “it’s up to me. It’s all me.” You do that, your dreams start coming true. Your life is what you want it to be. Try it. Take it on.

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You Can’t Afford to be Angry

Anger and fear are too expensive. You can’t afford to allow yourself to go into those emotions. And the truth is, anger, fear and doubt are based on an illusion that you are in some sort of danger. Now, if you’re reading this as a post, the bottom line is that you’re in a situation where you’re trying to get ahead, move forward. You’re trying to become something, create the life of your dreams. So, you’re not even in a dangerous situation.

Anger, fear, and doubt represent emotions that are designed to move you rapidly away from danger. Just start to get real. You’re not in danger. And when you’re in those states, you’re not effective. You’re not powerful. You’re not attractive. You’re not charismatic. You’re not pulling the things to you that you want to pull to you. So you’ve got to learn how to see the situation for what it really is rather than living in the delusions the drunk monkey sets forth.

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