Changing your lover, your spouse, your partner will never work. They don’t want to change. They got into this relationship with you because they thought that you accepted them the way they are. What makes relationships not work, what kills the bliss in relationships is that we love who we think the person could be some day when we finally fix them enough so that they’re perfect. That will kill your bliss. That will make sure that your relationship suck.
Stop trying to convert your lover, your spouse, your partner over to your tribe. They don’t want to convert. Instead appreciate, honor, accept. Why don’t you make a list today of ten things that you appreciate about your lover, your husband, wife, spouse. Make a list of ten things and just review it tonight before you go to bed. Review it tomorrow night, too. In fact, review it for the next week. See what happens when you focus on the things that you appreciate about the person that you’re in a relationship with. You will see the bliss, the joy, the happiness increase exponentially and you’ll discover they didn’t need to change. You needed to change.