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June 19, 2010 – 10:50 am
“I have a problem with…”
“I can’t…”
“I’ve never been good at…”
These kinds of statements are your prison. They are not true statements. They are habitual statements.
When you say, “I have a problem with people who communicate brashly,” that is not the truth. You don’t have a problem. You choose to resist. But your language externalizes the problem as if there is some aspect of yourself that you cannot control and is actually in control of you. The truth is, you have gotten in the habit of resisting people like this. Your language is your prison.
When you say “I can’t seem to get to the gym consistently!” You can already see that it is not a true statement. You make the decision to do something other than go to the gym. There is no phantom inside of you controlling your behavior. You have full control and until you admit it, your prison door is locked.
When you say, “I’ve never been good at keeping things clean!” You are not the victim of some powerful force inside of you that is controlling you and making your environment disorganized. You have habitually chosen to do something other then organize.
Awareness and truth begin to set you free. Start telling the truth about the prison you have created today.
“I am in the habit of resisting people who communicate differently then I do.”
“The gym has been less important to me then sleeping in.”
“Keeping my environment clean is not important to me.”
Write in the comments and tell me some of the language you are going to change today.
Dated:
June 14, 2010 – 9:47 am
If your energy is low, then your future is probably not that exciting. If your energy is high, then your future is likely something you are excited about. When I work with Life Coaching clients I’m always checking into their energy level to discover if new goals are necessary. One of my clients works at a very big bank. He has conquered the big challenges in his department. The department is profitable but his energy is low. I asked him, “What are you looking forward to?” His answer was telling, “Nothing.”
We immediately went to work on new goals. By the end of the session, he was excited again. How about you? Are you excited about the future that is coming? Today create a new set of goals that lights you up.
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June 7, 2010 – 8:59 am
Have you been trying to change, only to be pulled back to your old ways? Consider this idea: The world won’t let you change. Not because the world is evil and you are a victim. Because you have set the world up to fit with your current set of behaviors and beliefs. Everything you have said to others about how your life is, why your life is this way and who is to blame keeps you trapped. The systems in your life are designed to keep your current life intact.
Every promise you make is a part of the system of living you have designed. Every commitment you make holds the old you in place. Every declaration about what you like and don’t like keeps the old you stuck.
In order to create profound change in your life, you must convince the world that the new you is here. Which means you have to take radical responsibility for all the choices, decisions, and actions you have taken in the past that are keeping you stuck. You did this to yourself. You can undo it.
Dated:
June 4, 2010 – 2:33 pm
Michelle writes:
Matthew, you know how you always say “When you let go of what it has to be, you get the essence, even if you don’t get it. And one way of doing that is to set an intention and add “or something better” to the end?
Well, I decided that about the gallery in the OC where my art is was not working. The guy was shady, people weren’t receptive to my art, they felt it was too sexy, and it was costing me a lot of money, with no return. I decided to quit, even though I didn’t have another place to go. But I held the intention that I will have galleries with owners who love my work, with clientele who also love my work. At my final gallery show – I stopped and talked to an older gentleman, just because he looked like he needed someone to talk to. Turns out his daughter has a new lingerie store, where my art fits perfectly (I do paintings of women in lingerie). She loves my work, her clients love my work. I ‘m getting MUCH better publicity and I get window placement of my art – on the SAME street as my old gallery. I still get to participate in the monthly San Clement Art walks, and can have art events in her shop. Plus it isn’t costing me anything on a monthly basis.
I am so pleased! Once I let go of “having to be in a gallery” and just focused at wanting my art in the best possible place – the “or something better” really is better.
Thank you for sharing that with us. It has been very helpful. And every time I get a little stuck – I start doing my intentions and delegations again – and it has led to some fabulous results.
-Michelle
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