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The Importance of a Past You Regret
Dated: 
February 11, 2010 – 7:54 pm
February 11, 2010 – 7:54 pm
As a Life Coach, this is where I find people. Great lives are born out of negative pasts.
If your past sucks, then you benefited and your life is better today because of it. Having a negative childhood is almost always the best thing that ever happens to someone. The contrast you experience gives you new desires, new ideas, and the energy you need to create the life you want.
The negative past is a catalyst for profound change.
In that way, it is great!! But your unwillingness to accept it and appreciate it becomes a barrier to the next level of happiness and peace. You see, once you have proven to everyone that you are better then your past, you realize proving it doesn’t make you happy.
To break through the glass ceiling you must align with your past. Appreciate your past. Acknowledge that your past was exactly what you needed to become the person you are today. This will increase your sense of purpose, happiness and joy almost instantly. Acknowledge all the people that pissed you off. They were exactly what you needed to grow.
Try it today. Figure out how everything you hated about your past is exactly what you needed to become the person today. Acknowledge and love your breakdowns. Realize they made you who you are.
Why Goal-Setting Makes You Freeze
Dated: February 8, 2010 – 10:16 am
February 8, 2010 – 10:16 am
A life coaching client wrote in, “I have a question. Whenever we are asked what our dreams and goals are, I like freeze, I can never really come up with what my dreams are and I can’t find goals that excite me. It’s like they have been suppressed for so long I don’t even know. It’s like whenever that question comes it’s like a kid taking a test and just freezes.”
The Drunk Monkey Reins Supreme
Several aspects of ourselves stop us from setting new goals. The biggest one is fear. The Drunk Monkey is trying to protect you from getting hurt. It believes that if you stay the same, then your life will remain relatively safe.
Exercises For Breaking Through Resistance
I like to use two different techniques to break out of this pattern. The first is called The Worst Case Scenario. Write out the worst possible thing that could happen if you create some new goals and notice that just the exercises free you up to be more expressive.
The second technique I like to use comes from my NLP training and I call it getting leverage. Visualize what your life will be like ten years from now if you never set any new goals. Find all the negatives and really focus on them. Make yourself sick to your stomach. Then visualize what your life will be like 10 years into the future when you break through what is stopping you and you start achieving. Feel the energy and excitement.
Once you have done each of these techniques, pick up the pen and just start writing. Answer these two questions:
How would you rate your level of satisfaction (on a scale from 1-10) in the area of physical health? What would have to happen for it to be a 10? Whatever you wrote down will be a new goal. Now ask the same two questions for mindset, spirituality, family, primary relationship, business, personal finances, contributions, social life, and recreational activities. When you are done, you will have a great list of goals.
Your Plans Will Never Fail
Dated: February 6, 2010 – 10:58 am
February 6, 2010 – 10:58 am
Failure is learning. Without failure you will never understand what is necessary to achieve your goals. Failure is setting you up for what’s next. Don’t avoid failure. If you don’t fail you won’t succeed. To feel like, “All is lost” is inaccurate. So much is gained along the way. Seek failure and discover it’s lessons and you will never fail.