Life Coach Reveals Technique for Releasing Stress

Dated: date October 31, 2009 – 4:32 pm

What makes you nervous?  Usually it is some future The Drunk Monkey in your head is obsessing over.  The way to get relaxed is to see it for what it is.  The Drunk Monkey in your head, all that talking, is just trying to keep you alive longer by avoiding potentially negative experiences.  This is great!  Good Job Monkey!  The problem happens when it fantasizes about negative futures that don’t even exist.  Or when it compares you to some elusive set of standards that don’t exist.  Here’s an example:

Lately The Drunk Monkey, my mind, has been telling me that I need to write a new book now and get it published.  That if I don’t do this I will lose some elusive window of opportunity.  The Drunk Monkey has been saying, “You need to pick your subject and do it or you’ll just be a nobody for the rest of your life!”  As you can imagine, lately I’ve felt a little anxious.

The Drunk Monkey has been holding me accountable to some standard that doesn’t exist.  Probably because my brother, Tom Ferry, just signed a big publishing deal and is gung ho and excited about it.  The Drunk Monkey is comparing me to him and saying, “If he does it, then you better do it or you will really be a nobody!”

Here’s what I say to The Drunk Monkey so that I can relax and let it flow again.  “Drunk Monkey, have you seen my life?  I’ve got a lot of amazing things happening right now.  I’ve got A B C D (I make a big list) and all of those things are awesome!  Could I write a book?  Yes!  Probably 4 different books at this moment!  But am I in the book business?  No!!  I’m in the coaching business.  I’m building my coaching company Monkey!!!  Hello!!  Very different business.  Drunk Monkey, when the time is right, I promise to write you a book so you can be big and famous and have millions of adoring fans.  In the mean time I’ going to enjoy every minute of my current objectives!”

So what is that?  Get real about what is working now.  What you like now.  What makes you happy now.  Don’t let The Drunk Monkey cause you stress by fantasizing that the future is bleak.  Don’t let The Drunk Monkey hold you accountable to things that aren’t even real or important.  Be clear on what you want and what you are committed too.

Try the 10/10 visualization everyday.  That always helps you stay in a good place.

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Life Coaching Tips to Make Happiness Automatic

Dated: date October 29, 2009 – 9:07 am

iStock_000000294109MediumMy clients are generally the biggest of the big in their respective industries.  Each of them has created massive success.  Yet the process they used to get there often seems inapplicable to the other aspects of life, like happiness or peace.  The process is the same.  You must create structures, systems, disciplines and processes that make your happiness automatic. Here are three tips that will start you on this process.

1.  Gratitude. The Drunk Monkey (my nickname for the mind) is designed to look for what is wrong and try to fix it, kill it or avoid it.  The Drunk Monkey does not spend any time looking at what works.  What works is not a threat and therefore deserves little of your mind’s attention.  Yet focusing on what works is a powerful discipline that creates automatic happiness.

2.  Acceptance. Dr David Hawkins, author of “Power vs. Force” says, “Acceptance is the great healer of strife, conflict and upset.”  The Drunk Monkey does not spend time accepting.  The Drunk Monkey’s job is to notice differences and declare things that are unfamiliar a threat.  The Drunk Monkey uses negative emotions to move your body away from what is unknown, different, strange, unusual.  To achieve automatic happiness you must practice questioning The Drunk Monkey’s motives.  By seeking to accept you instantly go into a peaceful happy place.

3.  Self-Examination. When you see The Drunk Monkey (your mind) for what it really is, just an unexamined accumulation of reactions, you start to question everything it is doing.  Every client I work with is taught to question everything The Drunk Monkey says.  Stop believing in your thoughts.  When you do, happiness becomes your natural state.  Steven Sadleir author of “Looking For God” says, “Anything other than happiness and peace is just a state of mind.”

Today consider that your life has structure that creates feelings you never designed.  With awareness comes flexibility.  When you start being more flexible, new options appear.  Options give you power.  When you feel empowered, you feel happy.  Awareness is the key.

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Life Coaching Tip on How to Stay Motivated

Dated: date October 28, 2009 – 7:57 am

Breakthrough!There are times when you are up and times when you are down.  As a life coach, so often my clients try to push through the times that they are down.  They try to motivate themselves.  Unfortunately this extends the period of time that they feel unmotivated.  When you resist where you are, you amplify it and make it worse.

They key is to relax into it and ride the waves of energy as they rise and fall.  There will be times when you are hot and times when you are not.  Times of great creativity and energy and times of no inspiration and you feel totally blah.  If you will honor the times of blah and just rest, inspiration will come back sooner.  If you panic and try to GET MOTIVATED, then you will just get more frustrated.

What’s the moral of the story?  Chill out, relax and rest when the body is going in that direction.  Don’t worry.  The waves of energy will return and you will soon be riding high again.

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A Gift From Mark Victor Hansen and Myself Just For You

Dated: date October 13, 2009 – 10:30 am

This is an email Mark Victor Hansen sent to his email list yesterday.  I thought you might want to get a copy for yourself.

“Every once and a while I just have to stop what I’m doing and share something with you that I know will make a huge difference in your life.

As you may already know, I have assembled a group of power players made up of entrepreneurs and visionaries that I call my Mega Inner Circle.

Our goal is to create rapid success in our lives, our businesses and our world through masterminding with each other and meeting with some of the greatest thought leaders around today.

We recently came together for an incredible three days in St. Augustine, Florida, for a marketing and branding summit. Business is changing and it’s crucial to stay ahead of the curve, so I brought in five mentors to work with the group on creating individual world-class brands and quality sales and marketing strategies.

I shared my personal success tools as well, but one thought leader took a different approach that surprised us all. His name is Matthew Ferry, The “Player’s Coach.”

Matthew challenged all of us to go within and release our inner resistance to accepting more business and building a world-class brand. With one process, technique and exercise after another Matthew really turbo-charged our weekend.

I asked Matthew to edit down a 33-minute taste of what he taught us and give it to you as a gift. Trust me, these 33 minutes will wow your soul.

Just click below to register to get your 33 minute highlight of Matthew’s powerful presentation at my Mega Inner Circle weekend:

http://matthewferry.com/million_dollar_sales_mindset/

Sincerely,

Mark Victor Hansen

Founder, MEGA Seminar Series”

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Play The Power of Contribution Game

Dated: date October 12, 2009 – 5:37 pm


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Come Play The Power of Contribution Game Saturday

Dated: date October 12, 2009 – 5:34 pm

iStock_000004478853MediumHave you ever played The Power of Contribution Game?  See video here

Come experience the possibility of creating magic in your life.

Join my friends and I on October 17th and learn how to play The Power of Contribution Game. This game has created incredible acceleration in my life and I believe it will do the same for you. Amazing and miraculous things happen every time we play this game with a group of like-minded individuals. Come kick start your dreams and gain momentum in your life now. When you play, what you want will show up in surprising ways. The key is to show up with an open and generous heart.

Be warned: After playing this game for a few hours you will be inspired and in action on your goals and dreams. You will have made some new friends and feel more alive than you have in a long time.

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* You will experience the emotional high of contributing to others without expecting anything in return.
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