Yesterday I posted a thought about how positive people rarely deal with their negativity because they feel it will make them negative. I proposed that the problem with not dealing with the negativity that lurks below the surface is that it seeps out of you in ways that others can sense. You end up becoming a rose garden with a sewer underneath. I had some great comments on various social sites that I wanted to address.
Negativity is neutralized by becoming aware of its source. I define negativity as the resistance you have to what is so. Life is just lifing along and then you are resisting what ever it is doing. The past is simply a figment of your imagination that you are now resisting. The future is a hallucination you are having that you are resisting. People are just doing whatever they are doing and you are reacting to your opinion of what they are doing. It’s not what they are doing that bothers you, it is your opinion about what they are doing that is bothering you.
In a nutshell, your opinion is the source of your negativity. And where does this opinion come from? Your infinite wisdom? NO! The Drunk Monkey in your head!!!! All hail the great and wise Drunk Monkey. You have been conditioned like a dog to think that “this is the right way to pee! That is the right way to dress! Those are the right behaviors!” But all of that is just your parents or whoever raised you doing their best to get you ready for life. What you believe about the world is not the truth. What you believe is just conditioning. Today, just roll with life and watch negativity dissipate before your eyes.
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I agree that opinions are or can be a source of negativity- perhaps you can help me with this – one of the areas I am working on for myself is that the real is not necessarily the real- however, when one is working for a non for profit organisation – promoting and marketing them – and then a situation occurs whereby the person who is “in control” of the organisation misappropriates large sums of money out of the organisation for themselves and makes you directly aware of their action and that they know what they are doing then do you – mind your own business? Keep your opinion to yourself? Take no action and move on or report the occurrence to the right authority ( is this not revenge)?
These are the “reality” situations I grapple with and would really like more help with.
Sorry I forgot to mention that I usually deal with things based on how I FEEL about them- if it feels good do it
In the above circumstances-
saying nothing makes me feel uneasy
saying something kindly makes me feel good – yet the retaliation makes me uncomfortable
reporting them makes me feel terrible