19 ways your inner child messes up your life (part 3)

Dated: date January 9, 2009 – 10:19 am

“Why do other people have such an easy time in life?” some of my clients ask.  The answer is simple.  Your life is hard when you never decide to give up the behaviors you adopted on the playground.  The Drunk Monkey (your mind) never grows up.  Its’ job is to keep you alive in a world where there is only one known factor.  You will die.  The 19 ways your inner child messes up your life are all tactics The Drunk Monkey believes will make you better, more beautiful, more powerful, more effective, more more more more.  All 19 aspects are based on the same erroneous notion that your behavior will keep you alive longer.

Here are a few more to ponder today.

13. Blaming others. To be the victim and not take responsibility is standard protocol for most people.  The truth is, you are not always responsible.  But that’s not a very powerful place to stand.  In the end, there is no blame to be assigned.  There is just the experience you are choosing to have.

14.  Thwarting responsibility. Related to blaming others.  This kindergarten behavior is about declaring yourself powerless.  The only powerful thing to do in your life is take responsibility no matter what.  The person who takes responsibility has options and power.

15.  Making people wrong. This is The Drunk Monkey’s favorite past time.  By making people wrong, you get to be right.  The Drunk Monkey perceives that by being right, you will some how win more favor and stay alive longer.  Maybe you’ll get the more attractive mate if you are more right then others.  Good job, little monkey!

16.  Looking for favor. The class clown.  The know it all.  The helper.  The kiss ass.  They are all looking for favor.  Looking to be more.  Seeking the limelight in hopes of being better then others.  You will get ahead, have it all and still be live with fear and anger if you don’t let go of the idea that something outside of yourself will give you happiness.

As you look at this list, notice how these behaviors are everywhere.  Most people have never grown up.  Most people never reach adulthood and then they are confused as to why they do not experience the happiness and peace that they desire.

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Everything I manifested in ’08 fell apart! Now what?

Dated: date January 8, 2009 – 1:00 pm

One of my clients sent me an email.  “Everything I manifested in ’08 fell apart! Now what?”

This is my answer:

You aren’t perfect, life isn’t consistent, and you are learning.

When what you want manifests and then everything goes to sh** don’t lose the lesson. Don’t lose the clarity comes from things not working.

There is a skill, discipline, belief, structure or accountability missing.

Think about it. What’s missing in your life so that you can pull things to you, and then they fall apart?

For example, in sales, one might be able to get the appointment but cannot get the deal signed. Each new manifestation has a series of steps that must be managed and mastered.

You might be able to pull the deal to you. Then your communication during the process sucks, so you blow it.

You might need to go all the way down to learn the lesson. There is no failure, just feedback.

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19 ways your inner child messes up your life (part 2)

Dated: date January 6, 2009 – 2:19 pm

Inner child?  Yeah, right!  The so-called Inner Child, in my definition, is very outer and displays a whole series of negative behaviors that mess up your life.  This list explains more of the 19 things I see my clients doing that messes up their lives.  Can you relate to any of this?

7.  Resentments.  If your life is not fulfilling, then this is the number one reason.  This is the highest priority of your Inspired Action Coach.  When you let go of your resentments, everything in your life gets better, and quick.  Standby, I’m going to start uploading some coaching calls where I help people let go of their resentments.

8.  Hatred. The Drunk Monkey loves to hate.  To hate is to demonstrate that you are in control.  To hate is to show the world that you will not be messed with.  But there is one problem.  You get what you focus on.  If you hate, you will bring negative situations upon yourself.  Give it up, today.

9.  Rivalries. To be in a rivalry means you perceive there is a lack of something.  Lack of attention.  Lack of recognition.  Lack of glory.  These are childish misconceptions.  You can always get the attention you deserve.  To be in a rivalry makes sure that you never feel satisfied, even when you win.

10.  Competition. Again.  To compete is to fear that there can only be one winner.  What you seek is the experience you think winning will give you.  Focus on getting that experience and don’t worry about who placed in what order.

11.  Seeking the limelight and admiration. The Drunk Monkey is always trying to be the biggest.  It believes if it is admired by all, then it will survive longer.  It believes if it is admired that it will be able to spread its DNA all over the planet.  Aren’t you ready to grow up?  You are going to die no matter how popular you are.

12.  Willfulness. Isn’t it bizarre how old people display behaviors they developed as 2-year-olds?  Willfulness is just a form of righteousness.  An addiction to being right.  Why?  Because The Drunk Monkey believes that being right will help you survive longer.  It won’t.  It will just make you miserable.

Seven more ways your inner child messes with your life are coming up.  Give me your feedback.  Is this the kind of stuff you want to hear from me?

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What my 13-year-old son Trevor got from my last class

Dated: date January 5, 2009 – 11:01 am

Trevor attended my Inspired Action Workshop a couple of months back.  He left his notes in my office.  I was just cleaning things out and found them.  Here are four notes on the front page which I found inspiring.  I’m stoked that they came out of my mouth :-)

1.  It’s easy to be inspired and in action when you feel joy, bliss and excitement.

2.  Anything other then happiness and peace is just a state of mind. (here I am quoting my mentor Steven Sadleir)

3.  Negativity is the resistance you have to how life actually is.

4.  Bliss creates inspired action, which produces results effortlessly.

Let’s get inspired today.  If you need a little help, then check out www.15strategies.com

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