People love me, so why am I so lonely?

Dated: date October 23, 2008 – 1:28 pm

I have many friends who are prominent globally.  I just finished dinner with someone whose name you would know.  This friend graces many stages with his presence, millions of people adore him, and yet, he feels alone.

I am fascinated with the degree to which people’s power, possessions, accomplishments and achievements are a reaction to their internal pain.  After coaching thousands of people to live in a state of joy now I’ve seen that the biggest obstacle to feeling totally satisfied with now is a person’s fundamental misperception.

A quote from one of my favorite books You2 by Price Pritchet sums it up so well.  “Years ago you accepted false conclusions as correct, began to live your life as if those warped ideas about yourself were true and ceased the bold experiment in living that brought you so many breakthrough behaviors as a child.”

My friend innocently drew a false conclusion that he was not loved by his mom or dad or the people that raised him.  We all do it in some way or another.  We accidentally conclude that we are separate and therefore in danger.  Then The Drunk Monkey (my nickname for the mind) takes over and starts protecting us from not being loved, being stupid, being ugly or what ever it might be.

And that’s it.  From that point on your life is ordered by this misperception.  The more you try to get love, as in my friend’s case, the more lonely you feel.  No amount of love or adoration will ever make you feel whole, safe or a part of.

I gave him a five-step exercise to pull this weed from his mind and destroy this misperception.  It’s standard practice for my Inspired Action Coaches and it creates radical amounts of bliss and joy in your life now.

If you want the five steps please comment and I’ll give them to you.

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The Best Year Of Your Life

Dated: date October 21, 2008 – 3:01 am

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2009 – Your Best or Worst Year?

Dated: date October 20, 2008 – 3:48 pm

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4 steps to get out of breakdown now!

Dated: date October 17, 2008 – 9:39 am

One of our clients happens to be a new real estate agent.  He is failing miserably.  When I asked him about it, he tried to put on his practiced happy dance.  I didn’t buy it.

I asked him “How would you rate your level of satisfaction with the Real Estate business?”  He said “5″  I laughed.  You see, three minutes before, he had just admitted that he has been totally depressed and not doing anything.  “Totally depressed is a 5?” I fired back.  To which he admitted it was more like a 2.

To be depressed tells me that this very powerful and capable person has accidentally started to resist a negative future that The Drunk Monkey (his mind) has sold him on.  I asked “What are you unwilling to face in your real estate business that has feeling so powerless?” Without hesitation he replied “I’m a failure”.

Here is how I coached him.

1.  What you can accept you can transform.  Write out the worst possible thing that could happen to you if you keep going down this path.  Then come up with 2 to 5 options, if it actually did happen.

2.  Your lack of power is related to your unfulfilled promises to yourself and others.  Make a list of all the promises, commitments, accountability and tasks that you have pending right now.  Then do one of two things.  Either make a new promise and begin to reorganize your life around that promise or call the person you have the promise with and cancel it.  Be sure to give yourself realistic time frames on the promises you are choosing to keep.

3.  Get the Monkey off your back!  Go to www.mfpodcast.com and download the three free visualizations.  Listen to the Accepting Self, Others and Situations visualization for 20 minutes every single day for the next seven days.

4.  Get inspired now!  Go to www.15strategies.com and start my free 15 strategies course.  It is the 15 things my coaches and I do to help someone get out of breakdown.

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My life is awesome – Why am I so miserable?

Dated: date October 16, 2008 – 9:58 am

I just spoke with an amazing young executive who was feeling very glum.

“I just completed my taxes and I made $500K last year.” he says in a somber voice.  “Wow!  That is incredible for a 30-something like yourself to make that kind of money” I fire back.

“Yeah but what happened to it?  I didn’t save. I didn’t invest.  I feel like an idiot.” He tells me.

Here was my response:

Isn’t it bizarre that The Drunk Monkey (your mind) hates you and torments you?  You have an amazing life.  You make huge money and rather then celebrating the victory of being in the top 1% of all income earners on planet frickin’ Earth, The Drunk Monkey finds some way of tearing you down.

Should my client save more money? I don’t know, it sounds prudent, but why?  Because you and I have been conditioned to believe that what other people think is more important then what we think.

Just because the general rule of thumb is save money, doesn’t mean it’s right for everyone.

Now don’t get me wrong here.  I’m not recommending that people don’t save money.  I’m simply asking you to stop allowing The Drunk Monkey to beat you up.

I asked him, “Did you enjoy yourself?”  Yes.

Did you know you were spending your money? Yes

Did you choose to spend your money?  Yes

And now that you have done that, do you have a new intention for this year?  Yes!

Great!  You had fun and now you have a new intention to save money.  That’s not bad.  You are not bad.  Life is not bad.  That’s all just The Drunk Monkey’s propensity to look for what might be wrong and fix it.  But, spending you money and having fun is not wrong.  Having a new intention to save you money is not better then spending it.  You have the distinct pleasure of experiencing both.  Lucky you!

When you feel good, you are stronger, more resourceful and have more power.  Don’t let The Drunk Monkey beat you up just because you have a new idea today and it’s different then what you did yesterday.  Yesterday it seemed like a good idea.

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Sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck

Dated: date October 15, 2008 – 11:22 am

One of my clients has been a real estate investor for the last 10 years.  He lost everything in the last year.  It is turning out to be the biggest blessing of his life.  “I feel so free!” he tells me all the time.

“What do you want to do now?” I keep asking him.

His knee jerk response is always about making more money, doing more projects and figuring out how to get back on top again. “Why?  What will all of that do?” I keep pressing him.  And over and over he keeps going back to, “Someday I will just let everything go and travel the world in a carefree manner!”.

HELLO!!!!!!!!  The universe/God/Source has set you up for that now!!!

You have never been more free!  You have never been less obligated!!

I’ve been having this conversation with him for one year and today was the first time he popped.  He realized that someday is today.  He’s got nothing left to lose.  He’s got no other obligations.  Now is the time.  Not someday.

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