So many of my clients resist the way their parents were/are.  I find it interesting that they come to me as successful business men and women who have used their pushing against energy as an advantage.

Here is a profile on the impact that one of my clients is experiencing.

She resists her mother because her mother was so abusive.  My client reacted by becoming syrupy sweet.  It was a way to keep her mother calm and not so abusive.  Now she is 50 and is using syrupy sweet as a business practice.  And it’s only marginally effective.  She must work twice as hard because syrupy sweet is not appropriate in most business situations.  This annoys the people around her.  They feel like she doesn’t care or that she is aloof.

How does my client interpret people’s reactions?  Like they are being abusive.  So she gets even sweeter.  It’s so hard to keep up the facade.  When she gets home, she is exhausted and pissed off.  She becomes abusive with her loved ones.  But she’s not abusive like her mom.  She’s much more sneaky and underhanded.  She does it with a smile.

Her resistance to her mom has made her just like her.  We become what we resist.  If she is honest about her attitude on life, people really annoy her.  She thinks she is keeping that covered up with her sweetness.  But with further examination, using the Self Directed 360 Review Process, she finds out that everyone knows that she is righteous and judging.

She resisted being abusive like her mother but her resistance to it, creates a facade that makes life even more agitating.  It makes her grumpy and she is abusive to people in her head.  But people feel it. Her agitation is felt by everyone.  She became what she resisted.

How about you?  Who/what are you resisting?

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